| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: Hi, I am a 20 year old female. When I was in high school I developed feelings for one of my teachers. I have been in a serious relationship with someone else for the last three years and haven't seen the teacher in four years.. My problem is that I still think and dream about the teacher a lot, I don't feel like it is normal and I just want him out of my head completely. I want to forget about him, and since it has been so long I don't understand why I still can't... Any advice you have would be very appreciated.
View related questions:
my teacher Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Jess2006 +, writes (2 January 2006):
Firstly, I'd just like to say that I'm in a sixth form college at the moment and have had very strong feelings for my English teacher for the past six years, so I know exactly how you feel/ felt... but the thing is, now that you have lost touch with him and haven't seen him for so long, he's probably changed a lot and probably doesn't think about you any more. I know that's hard to hear but it's true. He may even be in a long term relationship or have gotten married since you last saw him.
Tracking him down and talking to him might be a good idea, but it's likely to set off those old feelings again (worse than they are now), and you need to consider the implications of this in your current relationship if you decide to go through with it. Also, what would you say? He would probably be quite scared if you turned up on his doorstep declaring your undying love for him after four years of not talking, so you'd have to play it cool, and that would be useless - all your old feelings would be sparked up again and you wouldn't be able to talk to him about them.
The best idea may be to concentrate on the relationship you have now more... maybe even talk to your partner about it. Be honest with him and you will find a way of coping with it together.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do, and take care,
Jess
A
female
reader, xXx*BabyGurl*xXx +, writes (31 December 2005):
i personally think that you may need to track this teacher down and talk to him and you need to sort out your feelings are they for the teacher or your boyfriend??
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2005): Everyone has a crush at some time in their life, this one is normal, it's just got out of hand.
What you need to do is stop thinking about him, he doesn't think about you. You'll probably never see him again. Whenever you start thinking about him, start thinking about your current boyfriend. Think about really nice times you've had together, and hopefully, these will block your feelings for this teacher.
Try and improve your sex life with your current boyfriend,
that way, your feelings for him will become stronger, and maybe that'll stop the feelings for your teacher.
Whatever happens, you need to find your own way of blocking these feelings for your teacher, eventually they will go, it just takes time.
Meryy christmas! XXXXX
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2005): maybe you need to talk to this teacher and sort out your feelings. You need to let go of them or follow them, either way its a split street. Ask yourself how much your current relationship is worth before you do anything.
good luck
...............................
|
