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writes:Ok. so I dont know if im bi or what. I started dating this girl a little over a year ago and then she moved but we are still going out and im very much in love with her..but in december i slept with this guy four times. i only told her about the one time because i dint want to hurt her.i thought i was falling for the guy but i was wrong hes a jerk. Just recently a guy asked me out and it was her Ex so i didnt know what to do because no one knows im dating her except my other bestfriend. So i told him yes. Hes also dated another one of my friends and slept with her..she despises him. I dont know what feelings i have for him unless they are sexual. I still love my girlfriend. Just recently my bestfriend told me she liked me, and i kind of like her too. Im so confused. what should I do? Please let me know as soon as possible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really want to thank susan strict and in need of attention..those answers really helped me out. I know nothing can happen with my best friend and that we should just stay friends. I really appreciate the advice. Your also right im too young to be in sexual relationships right now. Im too young and I just need to be around my friends all im worried about now is letting this one guy im dating go now..I dont know when to do it because his birthday is tomorrow. Also my bestfriend has been really stressing me out telling me how much she likes me. Although i love this girl I'm with i still have a strong urge to marry a guy one day.
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reader, inneedofattention  +, writes (6 June 2008):
 aww darling, your in such a difficult situation!it really doesnt matter about your sexuality, as long as your happy. i do feel however that you are slightly too young to be having such an intimate sex life!!! However, if you feel your more happy with a guy, this fella youve been seeing, why not tell him exactly how you feel. If your not really into the girl your dating at the moment, tell her before her feelings really get hurt as well. youve gotta think of her too you know, she has feelings.but if you love her, tell her that and admit to what youve been up to with this guy. As for this new girl you like, your bestfriend, i doubt this will work out, i think you should forget her and just remain friends, dont confuse the situation anymore.i really hope things work out for you, follow your heart and things will work out in the end, your still only young so dont stress out so much! all my luck and love, in need of attention xxx
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (6 June 2008):
 To the asker of the question, it doesn't really matter whether you are bisexual or not. It's not something you need to "decide".
What you do decide, eventually, is who you love and who you want to be with. The difficulty is always making the decision when there is more than one possibility and you can't get your head round which one you really love. It's not necessarily a case of which sex they happen to be, it's a case of the person you want to have as your partner. What really doesn't work is going from one person to another and then back again. Sooner or later it causes problems.
Also, I have to say that you appear to be a little young to be having such an active sex life? You ought to remember that during your teens your sexuality and your emotions are pretty much in turmoil. It's a good idea not to settle on anything or anyone too firmly just yet. Wait until your mind and body have settled a bit. In the meantime, enjoy your friendships and try not to worry about your sexuality. It will all become much clearer in a few years.
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (6 June 2008):
Brilliant, anonymous.
Accurate, and irrelevant. If you check carefully, you'll find that the death penalty required by that verse in Leviticus is the normal one for what would generally be described as "ritual transgressions" relevant to that time, that place and that society not to today's society.
It's the same "ritual transgression" that requires the death penalty for gathering sticks on a Sunday (Numbers 15 verses 32-36) or improperly eating ritual food (Numbers 18 verse 32) or approaching a priest when he's busy with ritual matters (Numbers 3 verse 10).
It has absolutely no relevance other than to help us understand the harsh history of those people in those days, and the struggle to bring primitive people to God.
And then we come to Paul's letter to the Romans. Even the extract you quoted doesn't even remotely imply that a punishment is being applied for homosexuality. Read it again, and in particular the phrases "served the creature rather than the Creator" and "God gave them up to vile passions". The punishment leads to homosexuality (among other things), not the other way round.
Quoting these passages in a reply to a question of this sort does nothing other than repel people from Christianity and from Christians.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): Old/T Leviticus 20:13 If a man lie with mankind, as with womankind, both of them have committed abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be on them.
New/T Romans1:22 Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools,
24 Therefore God also gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to uncleanness, that their bodies should be dishonored among themselves,
25 who exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshipped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen.
26 For this reason, God gave them up to vile passions. For their women changed the natural function into that which is against nature.
27 Likewise also the men, leaving the natural function of the woman, burned in their lust toward one another, men doing what is inappropriate with men, and receiving in themselves the due penalty of their error.
28 Even as they refused to have God in their knowledge, God gave them up to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not fitting;
29 being filled with all unrighteousness, sexual immorality, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, evil habits, secret slanderers,
30 backbiters, hateful to God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
31 without understanding, covenant-breakers, without natural affection, unforgiving, unmerciful;
32 who, knowing the ordinance of God, that those who practice such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but also consent with those who practice them.
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