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writes: My my frist and only ex-boyfriend is getting married soon and I can't stop thinking about him? We had a perfect relationship when we were going out, I can say that he is like a soulmate to me! I know for sure that if it wasn't because I had to leave to come live back in my home town. I was a teenager so I couldn't stay there and live on my own so I had to let him go. Distance keep of away from each other, or is it Distiny? Well I need to know what to do I know that if I talk to him he might even think of being together with me,or is it too late. I can't believe that we are not going to spend the rest of our lives together. Why dose these things happen!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2006): He was your first boyfriend, and the first is oftentimes the sweetest. Of course you are nostalgic and maybe envious and sad to know he is getting married.
However, you somehow learned about his upcoming wedding, so maybe that means he knows you're still around - how did you hear about it, by the way?
Please, don't fool yourself with false hopes! He has obviously met someone else and moved on with his life since you and he broke up. It is fair to say that if he wanted to resume your relationship at some point during the years (?) since you broke up, he would have found a way to get in touch with you to see if you wanted that, also.
Its natural to think of "what might have been" and "what if." Sounds like that's where you are at now.
IF you do contact him - and it would be good to think long and hard before doing so - be prepared that you may very well hear what you don't want to. He will have to let his fiancee know you got in touch - people who plan to spend the rest of their lives together should not have secrets from one another - so it could make for an awkard situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2006): Well, I don't really believe in destiny, but if your heart really aches for this guy, you should tell him, and let him tell you how he feels about it...if this is your first and only ex-boyfriend it won't be your last, trust me....many many relationships do not work out becauase of timing....that doesn't mean that your relationship did not mean anything to him, but he has met someone else and has moved on with his life, as will you...but who knows maybe he wishes he had another chance with you, you will only know if you say what is in your heart, but be prepared for the answer you may not want to hear and be strong enough to let him go.
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reader, Toria +, writes (30 September 2006):
 I would say you've missed your chance with this guy but if you feel strongely for him and for the fact you was mean't to be together then where is the harm in telling him so, you've got nothing to lose only possibly gain from this.
He could well be happy in his new relationship and looking forward to his wedding but he might be still feeling strongely for you and just feeling he missed the chance so doing best he can to move on.
Good luck :o)
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reader, stacyhelper +, writes (30 September 2006):
 i personally think that if you love him that much then go talk to him, but if he tells you that he loves the other women and he wants to spend the rest of his life with her then let him because if you love him that much then you would be brave enough to let him go.
it isnt easy to let go of someone you love i know that but you have just got to remember that if hes happy with the other women then that should make you happy to.
just talk to him see what happens. if he says what you do not want to then you know what to do, just remember his happiness should be what is most important to you.
and as for thinking about him alot try and do something like go out with friends/family or bring you friends/family over for a meal, occupie your mind so he's not there stuck in your head 24/7.
i hope every thing turns out ok for you i really do all my love to you for being brave enough to ask
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