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writes:Hey please cud i get some advice please !!Well, The thing is i am in love with my ex boyfriend, but he dosnt know this, he says he still loves me, but when he asks for me back i say no. The reason i say no is because i have a new bf, but i feel like a nasty horrible person still being with my bf even tho i no i still love my ex. Im just trying to move on. I thought moving on was the best idea the right thing to do but no i dont no. When i was with my ex i was soo happy, i felt different, i had never NEVER ever felt that way before he changed my life. I thought he was the one, i have never cried over a boy before, untill i met him and when things went wrong for us i cried cos i loved him alot, then when we broke up i was crushed but thought it was for the best as i had suspicions about him. I thought i would move on i thought i had moved on but i always new i wud still feel somthing for him as, he was my first proper love. But lately i know its not just tht he was my first love thats the reason tht i still feel somthing, i now know its because i LOVE him. i cant bare to be without him i always think about him its carzy. i want to be with him every minute of the day i always hang round near were he is so we can acidently meet and talk. he feels exactly the same way for me as he often explains to me. but i havnt told him how i really feel, i cant i dont dare im shy and its silly i should becoss he cud move on any minute and i will be lost. this jsut sounds like an easy answer and u will proply be like yeah get with him but its harder much much harder than it sounds.There is a problem we have to keep our realation ship secret because of my friends dont really like him and are like eww dont get with him and my brother dosnt like him and it makes things awkward with him and my brother. and the fact of keeping it secret makes me depressed and i always get sad becos we dont get time alonetogether so often and we cant express ur selves in from of anyone, and its hard just really hard to have a relation ship in secret. And then theres my current bf i feel like a total bitch saying this and having a bf, but it needs to come off my chest or i will screem. i feel so so sorry for my current bf as he has no idea, im thinking bout dumping my current boyfriend to no exactly get bk with my ex but i will say we can 'see' each other see how it goes.but i dont no how to let my current boyfriend down and if i wud be doing the right thing as my old bf sorta messed me around a bit and i dont want to go through that again.what should i do ??and if i shud dump my current bf how shud i let him down without hurting him ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): You can be still attracted to someone you used to be with and that is quite natural. But you broke up for a reason and you are only remembering the good bits. Ask people why they don't like him and have a think about whether those things are true, because it is so easy to lose your reasoning when you like someone.
There is no easy way to finish it with someone. Your current boyfriend is bound to get hurt, particularly as he trusts you and doesn't know about all this. So have a good long think about whether you really want to leave him. Often your family and friends can see things you can't see yourself, so ask them for some help.
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