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writes:I have posted a couple of times re my text cheating husband. Although, without going into detail, I am 100% positive all this has stopped and didn't go beyond texting and he always shows me his mobile phone bills now, I still feel sick when he has to see her through work at meetings (they don't work together at the same premises). On Friday, the annual committee dinner is taking place and spouses can not go (he has been every year in the past and it's all above board). However, he doesn't see that this will hurt me very much as she will be there as usual (the texting only started up last April so the dinner wasn't an issue last year). Next week there is also a monthly committee meeting which they both attend (not together as such but they are both there) and every time one of these takes place I feel sick all evening waiting for him to come home. The dinner is going to be a nightmare as they will have the opportunity to socialise all evening. She is married but her husband never found out about the texting as I was advised by my husband not to inform him or I might regret it (to save my husband's skin???) and he said there was no point damaging two marriages (I don't know either of this couple). Sorry if you've read my postings before and think I'm still going on but all this has hurt me beyond belief and I feel so betrayed. Any advice on how to cope would be much appreciated, thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): To the lady who replied to my question. Are you over it, how serious was it and how long did it take to regain trust or didn't you!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): From a practical point of view maybe you could offer to drop your husband off or pick him up (use the excuse he can drink). Ultimately it might be best for you both to start fresh and if possible he changes jobs. I feel for you as I have been in your shoes precisely and it eats away at you. The only other thing I can suggest which appears less 'clingy' is to be out when your man gets home from this social event. Just leave a note saying you've gone out with a friend and make sure you get back about 2 hours after he will be. Try to redress the balance and make sure you increase your own personal social life without him - try and give him something to 'wonder' about.
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