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writes:Hi - I'm not sure I want to be with my partner. We'd been together 4 years before splitting up earlier this year. We don't live together but started seeing each other again about 2 months ago.I was the one that ended the relationship - things hadn't been right since around September last year. We both have children from previous relationships and before the split we used to do things with the kids altogether. Now, though since we got back together my heart simply isn't in it anymore.My feelings for my partner have somehow changed and although I like him as a friend and we get on well, while we were apart I lost that physical attraction and romantic feelings I once had for him. It's really hard to explain. I'm only 39 and feel too young to feel like this. I really don't want to hurt him but I can't see me carrying on under this strain much longer - can anyone help or relate to how/why I feel like this? Thanks ever so much.
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reader, Asexy  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 Here's the thing, if you were sweet on him like you used to be, you'd get the ants back in your pants for him. But that takes work. I recommend counseling, or something that will get you talking like you used to when you were just dating.
If you're not willing or not able to work on saving the relationship, you should start working to end it. This relationship limbo can go on for a very long time and neither of you will be happy. You both deserve better.
Decide what you want and be willing to work for it, either way. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007): i know how you feel, iim a 34yr old single mum of two, i was with my husband for 14yrs we split for 7mths, we got back together and things were good to start with, then we got stuck in the same rutt, over time things just were not the same, my feelings off lonelyness and been trapped also tide down so young did not help, after 3yrs i called it a day (i ended it 1st time too), it was so hard 2nd time round as i knew this was the end. iv been on my own for 10mths now still single but im happy the way things are now me and my children, you really need to think things through before you make any hard decisions about wot is right for you and you children.. good luck hope you find wot your looking for x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi - can I clarify that my partner isn't the father of my sone. We BOTH have kids from previous relationships - but not together. We don't live together and never have.
Thanks for any help.
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