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anonymous
writes:I had never had sex until about a month ago.now I have already had sex with six guys andit's almost like I can't say no anymore ..and I cant stop .What do I do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2007): I think you are just testing the waters---sex feels good and you like it---so you have sex-----make sure to use a condom and don't just sleep with anyone.......try and have a special connection first---I know it's hard right now since you are enjoying the sex......but just start now to be more picky with who you sleep with------
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2007): I think that if you are going to be getting all crazy like that you might as well charge these guys a hefty price so you can at least get something out of the deal! Why do it all over town for free? When you could be living in luxury!! Sorry probably not the best answer!! But don't think guys are going to be wanting to sleep with you like this for too long...after so long you will get HIV/AIDS or Herpes or some other god awful disease. Where are your parents? They should be loving you and making you feel good about yourself so yo udont have to sleep with guys to feel good. You are heading in the wrong direction. Fast.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (8 April 2007):
 If you can't stop yourself from this destructive behaviour, please go quickly to your nearest Family Clinic for information on all the potential diseases that you could contract and all of their future health risk, including cancer (HPV) and infertility. You are really walking in a mine-field here. The damage that you can do to your social standing with friends and family can suffer. You could be using this acting out sexually as a bandaid to cover up numerous issues that you may not be aware of, but it will come back to haunt you at some point in the future. Our bodies change from girl to woman in a few years and it can be a powerful ego boost to have men desire you, but your behaviour is quite extreme and unusual. If you have an older family member that you can easily talk with, reach out and ask for help, please. You need to get control of this situation before you create big problems for yourself. Please take care of yourself, I am worried for you. XX
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reader, Dagwood  +, writes (8 April 2007):
 Hi Anon. Firstly I would like to say I hope you've been having protected sex as your physical health depends on it! Secondly... sex with 6 guys in your first month does sound a little over indulgent for someone your age and I think you should be able to show more self control. Are you sure you don't have some hormone imbalance that's giving you this extreme sex drive? Maybe you feel unwanted by friends or family and you think sleeping with all these guys is going to make you popular? I know sex feels great and the guys show you lots of affection but doing it just for the thrill of the moment and not having any emotional connection or commitment will, in the long term, make you feel lousy about yourself and will probably get you a bad reputation in your social circle. I suggest you go and see your family doctor and tell him about it. He'll check you out and give you professional advice. Don't worry he will keep everything you tell him confidential so please do it ASAP. Love and protect yourself. Take care
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (8 April 2007):
 I think you have to give yourself a rest and maybe ask a tutor for counseling, better if it's a girl so she can understands you better, there is nothing wrong about enjoying sex but you have a responsability towards yourself, your mental and physical well being, having sex with a lot of boys won't help you feel better or being more liked or popular you can even get a nasty reputation, a sexually transmitted disease or even unwanted pregnancy, take care darling, I promise it will be better to find the right guy who cares and loves you to be with and you will also feel quieter and relaxed about anything, you deserve love, respect and quietnesstake care please, lots of people love you and would suffer if you got into a mess
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