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30-35,
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writes:Ok so its my boyfriends birthday next month and the week after we will have been together for a year. Also I have recently got a bonus at work (a lot more than I expected) and so really want to get him something nice. I love shopping and so have got him lots of presents totalling to about 150 pounds. However, he has gone mad when i said i was buying him presents and has said he doesnt want me spending alot because he cannot afford the same when it is my birthday (he likes everything to be equal in the relationship)I dont want to make him feel bad about what I have spent but at the same time I want to treat him, I dont want him spending lots on my birthday. What should i do?x
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reader, rocknroll  +, writes (25 May 2009):
You need to return the gifts. If you can't, then you have gifts for special occassions in the future. Then over time talk with him about finances. In time, you will need to support each othr when one of you looses a job or can't work due to illness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): I think your intentions are in the right place but you're about to do something that you already know will make him uncomfortable and perhaps angry. Get him a small gift and show him your love in other ways which he'll appreciate more. Part of being in a relationship is respecting what the other person communicates to you and he's made it very clear that spending a lot of money on him is not okay. Instead, buy yourself a sexy outfit that you know will turn him on.
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