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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have this problem.. well the fact is that its hard for me to get an orgasm.I have had 3 partners including my boyfriend. I had my first boyfriend form the age of 15-17 and the second was a person whom I liked, but he just used me for sex a couple of times. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years now and even he cant give me an orgasm!The only time I get it is when I sit on top; then it comes at once. I didnt love the first two, but I thought it would be different with my boyfriend since he is the first person I loved.My boyfriend is a very jealous type.. he constantly brings up my past, specially the second guy because he says that I wasnt in a relationship with him so I shouldnt have slept with him.. We had sex 4 times all together, I had just gotten out of a really bad relationship where my 1st boyfriend many times said that I was ugly and stuff.. I was so amazed that he likes me so I gave in.. I dont feel that I can let my self out sexually.. He doesnt believe that I havnt had an orgasme begore, so I fake it all the time.. if not my boyfriend will say that I have someone else who is satisfying my or that I have more experience thats why I dont dont get it with him..BUT when I sit on top I get an orgasm within minutes.. Is this normal? I sometimes feel like a slut because I have had 2 ex-BF. ( My boyfriend has one ex).What can I do? are there any special techniques I can use so that he can give me an orgasm in other positions than when I am on top?Thank you for your help aunts and uncles .
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): Okay, first of all, many women don't get orgasms from intercourse at all. So you're lucky you can get one from being on top. Secondly, if you are really aged 22-25 and are on your 3rd sexual partner, you are a FAR CRY from a slut.I know this wasn't your question, but your bf sounds really insecure. Tell him to get educated about women (not all of us have orgasms during intercourse) and tell him to lay off the jealousy pills. Are you constantly harping on his previous sexual experiences? No? Neither should he. When two people agree to be together, it should be in a position of mutual acceptance. For example, I was a virgin when I got married. My husband had 8 previous partners. It HONESTLY does not bother me. In fact, I never think of it. I accept him and I trust he wants to be with me and thinks I'm awesome in bed. Your bf needs to deal with his insecurities, not you.P.S. There may be some techniques etc. that will help you achieve orgasm, but it's different for everyone so you will just have to experiment. :)
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