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writes: I have a 7 year old daughter by my ex-boyfriend and we can't just seem to get along. He is very disrespectful towards me i cannot have an adult conversation with him without it turning into a huge argument. i don’t like him at all but i respect him because of my daughter and that’s all i want in return, but he just walks all over me and im sick and tired of it and i don’t know what to do. sometimes i feel like cutting him off completely out of me and my daughter lives but don't want my daughter to hate or blame me for keeping her away from her father, but im at the end of my rope! every time he comes around me i feel like smacking the s**t out of him i don’t like the way he makes me feel i am really a nice easy going person but he brings out the worst in me. all of our arguments are because of our daughter and him not doing right by her. he sees our daughter maybe once or twice a month maybe not at all, he is really a slacker when it comes to our daughter. he has three other children by another woman and she doesn’t work, but he will watch the kids when he gets off work so she can go out to the club but i ask him to watch our daughter while i work he'll say yes but wont follow through.One day she was really missing her father so she wanted to talk to him so i called him and handed her the phone he told her he would pick her up in an hour. he came 8 hours later she was dressed for bed because i thought he wasnt going to show up, i was in the bathroom when he knocked on the door and my daughter answered it and i came out the bathroom he had a major attitude because she had on her pajamas he started snapping his fingers at me like im dog or something raising his voice telling me to get her dressed. she was so happy to see him she raced up the steps to get dressed he was rolling his eyes and rushing me and i really don't like to argue in front of my daughter but i exploded because the nerve of him to come 8 hours begin demanding he had no decency to call or nothing then you want to start yelling at me i have a soft voice so his deep voice over powers mines so i get frustrated that we are having a shouting match over something that could have been avoided.Another thing that bothers me is when he promises to come pick her up just do it because im the one who has to deal with her crying and being upset. he knows i hate it when he makes all these promises to her, he know damn well he cant keep. also he has a habit of not feeding her when she’s with him for a short period of time he will keep her for eight hours without giving her something to eat or drink. one day i was so pissed, he brought her home he had her in the front seat after i told him numerous times she needs to sit in the backseat for safety reasons. he just does what he wants to do he left and my daughter said she was really hungry that’s when I questioned her, did her father give her something to eat she said no he took her to friendlys to get ice cream and that’s it then she said his girlfriend started cooking when she was leaving to come back home. I was beyond pissed I called him asked why he didn’t feed her he was nonchalant like it wasn’t a big deal cause in his eyes 8 hours isn’t a long time.please help me any advice is helpful
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reader, SarahRussell  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Oh my god, girl get yourself out of it now!Well done on giving him chances, because everyone deserves that. But by the sounds of this guy, he's had many a chance, and seems to have no remorse when he does something wrong. I hate to say this, but it sounds like a case for court. Unfortunatly, not all people can tell someone to get out of their lives, and the person will do it. By the sounds of this persons agression towards you, i wouldnt take any risks, especially when there is your daughter involved. I would present your case to your lawyer, or anyone that will listen. This may be a case for the courts to handle, as this man doesnt sound like he is giving our dad any support.Your daughter may feel upset if you tell her she cant see her dad, but when she is older she will understand you did it for her protection. Good luck with him, im sure your do well x
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