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*lare123
writes:I made a huge huge mistake last nite!! My ex boyfriend and I ended badly because he really hurt me but we both new we loved each other still but he needed some space. He now has a new girlfriend whom he's been with for about a month, and they've recently been having fittes and me and him have been getting on and chat a lot more.Now he is the big mistake - last nite we were all on a nite out and him and his girlfriend had a fight and becuase I'm friends with all his house mates we all went back to his house all very drunk.I ended up staying in my mate's bed who was out and whilst stumbling around drunk in the dark he put me to bed and also got in with me and we cuddled and chatted and then one thing led to another and we were kissing and then had sex! I know this was very wrongIt was really passionate and felt so right, afterwards we cuddled and chatted for ages and it was really nice and then in the morning he was really cuddly and all we could do was smile at each other, we both new it was wrong but knew it felt really right like how we used to be but better.I don't know what to do because he's got a girlfriend and what we did was wrong but I also know it wasn't just sex for both of us but I have no idea what he's thinking now because today he seemed confused and wasn't sure what he was going to do. I know what I did was wrong and unfair on her but I'm still so in love with him and know there's still something there.
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reader, raebaby  +, writes (28 September 2008):
look, in february i did the same thing. he told me he still loved me and i could see he didn't love her, so i made him pick. in the end he picked me, but cheated on me with the her months later. if he'll cheat on her with you, he could easily cheat on you. some guys wont, but most would. i wish i would've just let him go, and its really hard, but if not, it could end up just being a circle and you wont be happy. sure things could be better, but he dumped you in the first place and easily got a new girlfriend. its hard to move on and let go, but its the best thing to do. cause right now hes getting everything he wants, you and her. take the control back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008): Hello
I know this may not be what you want to hear but i was
in that same postions excepts i was the new girlfriend. I think it is brave to come up here and say that.
I love honesty.
And what happened with me was my boyfriend broke it off with the ex. BUt honesty sometimes i wish i would have let her have him cause what you did was wrong yes
and love is strong what can you do?
if you love him tell him that and see what he says
cause if he cheated i'm assuming he still loves you
and i wish i would have been the girl to step aside and let my now boyfriend be with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): You are a blokes dream come true, sorry, but you are letting him have his cake and eat it. Just walk away and let him get his relationship off the ground. You split up for a reason, so why cant you keep away. He had sex with you because you were there and it was available, end of story, some blokes are like that, not all. Just take your sorry self off and get yourself a bloke of your own, and put this behind you and try and forget about it, it was a drunken mistake.take carexx
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reader, Lucy2118 +, writes (27 February 2008):
 I think you wait until he works out what he wants, whether thats you or his girlfriend. Don't take all the blame on yourself, it takes two.
Hope this helps.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 February 2008):
 A cruel twist of fate or a long night with many endless dreams.Who knows the dream might end happily with you two back together again ?
Whether this dream will come true or not will have to depend on your ex.Fate will decide the outcome.
Good luck to you .
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reader, mckenzie09 +, writes (27 February 2008):
the only advice i can giv you on this hunny is to giv him time to realise what mistakes he has made if he is cheating on you then that proves he isnt the man he made out to be in the first place, a real man would tell you he is having problems within your relationship and needs to take some time out to see other people i know this might hurt you but love is a really stong feeling and it can make somebody real crazy some times, i know this because i am a bisexual female and i have a girlfriend and i love her so much but i really like this other girl i think i may be falling for her i dont want to let my current girlfriend go she knows i love her and i know she loves me but it feels like we are together too much....i would suggest you take some time out to be single for a while and have some fun, to take you mind off things i find it helps with my problem, and then u may even find someone who can understand u!
good luck hunny
i wish u well for the future
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): It's up to him whether he wants to break up with her or not.
And it's up to you whether you want to tell her or not.
It's also up to you whether or not you want to be second.
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