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writes: How do I get my goddess back?I've been so stupid and I have cheated on her for a while now with my ex. She found out once before and took me back. Unfortunately my ex is friends with my family and is around on weekends and my goddesses ex comes down to see his son so I can't stay there at the weekends. I have no friends, I am selfish and I am shallow but I can still love, and for the first time in my life I want to make a life with someone. But she has ended the relationship again because I have been sleeping with my ex on weekends. There is still a lot of feelings for her but she is not a patch on my goddess, oh and I'm weak and obviously cant say no but I want her back and I will do anything to achieve that so please help me. I'm so confused and guilty and hopeless. I need her. She is my one my only and I don't want to lose her forever but I fear I have. I don't want to be with my ex; I just want my goddess bac., she is the only one I have ever really seen as being my wife someday, but that won't be happening now because of me. Please anyone HELP! Need to know what to do. yours.want my goddess back
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2007): man u screwed up...twice. sorry, but i really doubt your um...."Goddess" will be willing to forgive.
Learn from your mistakes and move on.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (11 August 2005):
 Let me get this straight: She's your "one and only", you'll "do anything for her", you're guilty and weak and shallow and you're scared that you've blown your only chance at love with the woman you want as your wife.
But, when that "goddess" gave you another chance after you nearly ruined everything by sleeping with your old girlfriend, Mr Sausage still ran the show, as soon as you were near your ex again.
Now that's what I call devotion.
Sorry, matey. I have to join the crowd and agree: you're cooked. She'll never take you back again, and she never should... and you don't even seem to get that. You moan and whine to a forum full of strangers about how you love and need her and even we - rank amateurs - can see that you're full of lies. You're even lying to yourself. You want to talk your Goddess into coming back all right, but as soon as the coast is clear and you think you're in her good books again, you'll find another "weakness" and go and sleep with whomever tempts you. That's what you did before, isn't it?
If you really loved your Goddess, you'd have done your utmost to be loyal and faithful when she took you back the first time, and you wouldn't have let your groin do your thinking for you. That's a question for you, actually: what were you telling yourself as you were hopping into bed with the ex? How were you justifying your actions? Were you saying "Oh, how I love my goddess! I need her and I want to make a life with her forever... Just as soon as I've had sex with someone else!"
No, chalk this one up to One of Life's Lessons. When someone gives you a second chance with their heart, it's up to you not to waste it.
You've wasted your chance.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (11 August 2005):
You need to leave this girl to get on with her own life. You have ruined the 2 chances you had with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2005): first of all, you need to keep your dick in your pants and before jumping into bed with your ex, stop and think of your girlfriend. would you expect her to go and sleep with her ex behind your back? would you like to hear those words come out of her mouth to say she'd been cheating on you? no you wouldnt. you cant have your cake and eat it. if you want to sleep with other women then you need to think about what you really want. do you really want to be with your girlfriend or do you crave attention off other women? you need to talk to your girlfriend and tell her what you are insecure about and what you need more of in the relationship. no-one deserves to be cheated on. if you want her back, you need to show you care, write her letters saying how sorry you are, buy her flowers saying sorry, tell her how guilty you feel and how much of an inconsiderate idiot you are. only try and get this girl back if you REALLY believe you wont cheat on her again. if you think you will, then let her go with her best intentions in mind. hope you sort yourself out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2005): get a grip of yourself!!! do you honestly think your girlfriend would even like to get back with you! its bad enough when someone cheats once but the fact that you have done it a few times that is just not on. your girlfriend didnt deserve to be treated like that and you certainly dont deserve a second chance! i suggest you start looking for some other girl and leave your ex girlfriend to get on with her life and find a man who will be faithful and more loving to her! the way i see it is- once a cheater always a cheater!
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