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writes: i am 23 and boy friend is24 we have been together for3 yaers he is got a brother who is currently staying with us who i had a chemistry and lkast week after a drink when my boyfriend was a sleep we had sex in my bedroom and now we cant keep our hands off each other i love my boyfriend and dont want to lose him but i love the effection that i get from his brother what do i do if my boyfriend finds out he will kill us both please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): Hey i did the same exact thing but the only difference is there wasn't a drink involved. I saw my boyfriends brother and i fell for him but didn't do anything about i kind of left it alone. than one day i asked my boyfriend what would he do if his brother ever hooked up with one of his ex's or current girlfreind? his answer was if it was meant to be than he wouldn't be mad or whateva the case was he wouldn't be mad. so weeks went by and his brother came from palatine to chicago to visit his brother and me and my boyfriend brother exchanged words my boyfriend gave me a kiss and kicked it with his brother. Now an hour later he called me from a number i didn't recognize but he told me his phone went dead and that he was using his brothers i never thought any thing of i just kept doing me. now i usually delete my call lists but i didn't for two days and 4 nights lata i spent a night over my bestfriend house and we were prank calling people. at that time me and my boyfriend was into it but that wasn't the reason for calling his brother. i really was feeling his brother and wanted to see whats up. so i called private he answered and we talked from there. my boyfriends brother said he had always wanted to be with me from the first time he layed eyes on me but he knew it could never be because he thought i loved his brother which i didn't. now i broke up with my boyfriend for his brother and we were together for 4 months i broke it off because i wanted my boyfriend back. we got back together but he always brought up the incident between me and is brother and from there we'd argue. months later i ended up pregnant and my boyfriend is the father because i haven messed with his brother for 8 months and now he denying he isn't the father what should i do
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007): I slept with my boyfriends brother, and I confessed. Im not using it as a excuse but there was drink involved. I do truly beleive that it would not have happened had there not been. I regret it and the best thing I did was confess, my boyfriend knows me well and has forgiven me as he knows I made a mistake and I owned up to it, one thing though is that he will never forget. I hurt my boyfriend real bad and am so lucky to have been given a second chance even though i didnt deserve one. I think that you should stop what you are doing coming from exeperience alot of people will get hurt and you should confess to your boyfriend and if he forgives you do everything to show him how much you love him if he dosent forgive you dosent mean you can still keep it going with his brother it would be best to just move on and let them start there relationship over and gain hopefully some trust back but I hope everything works out, as they say things happen for a reason. But like I said its always good to face up your mistakes and face the consequences its called growing up and learning from your mistakes. all the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2006): i am in the same situation. my bf too is very violent. you ned to break up with your bf!!! truth ALWAYS finds a way of getting out, and I don't think you want to be front and center when it does, do you? your bf will kill you. I too ahve to break up with my bf. I can't believe i made such a huge mistake. I love my bf too, he has hurt me alot and I wanted to hurt him back. Your bf deserves better. Let us both learn from our terrible mistakes and repent. Find the strength and leave your bf!!!!
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reader, Bibbi +, writes (17 May 2006):
 You are aware what you are doing is wrong? Its also completely normal! You need to talk to your boyfriends brother about this situation, and maybe you should go on holiday with Your boyfriend and hopefully the alone time with him will help you realise how much you love him! And that you dont need a second dish! I wish you the best of luck in this situation and hope you will finish the affair with this boy! xx
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reader, bonym  +, writes (17 May 2006):
 I totally agree with Dr Pete. But may I add this, my dear if you TRULY "LOVED" your fella, you would put chemistry aside and you would not have slept with this man. The best thing you can do is to refrain from seeing your sisters fella and I personally believe you should either fess up to your fella about your mistake or have some time apart. I do wish you all the best though. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): Do you mean affection?
Seems you weren't getting affection from your boyfriend so you weren't happy in the relationship any way.
The best thing you can do is get out of both of their lives as soon as you can.
Your lack of respect could break up their relationship forever.
Hopefully you can learn from this mistake and have a better relationship in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): i hered that guys set traps when they want sex. maybe him and his brother planned this. his brother problaby wanted you for sex and your boyfriend agreed to share you and acted like he was asleep. come on now, do you think you could have sex with someone else in the same house without letting someone knowing. thats what i here from guys. they do stuff like that
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (17 May 2006):
 To cheat on your boyfriend with someone else is bad as it is, let alone cheating on your boyfriend's brother! Look selina, whether or not you guys have chemistry is not of importance here. Its dead wrong, regardless whatever reasons!
It seems to me that you're not even remorseful about what you have done, and the only reason you post this question is because you're wrecking your brains out trying to figure out what will happen IF/WHEN your boyfriend finds out about this affair. But as Im not here to judge, I will advice you this, whether you take it is entirely up to you.
Coming clean with your boyfriend about the affair would be a good start if he's not the violent type. But if he has violent tendencies, I suggest you just break it off with him without letting him know. As for the brother, well, if I was you, Id be running away as far as I can from him. What sort of person would betray his brother like this? Tis sad!
I hope you learn from your mistakes. Just remember that every choice you make now will have a repercussion later on. So make them wisely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): how would you feel if he was sleeping with your sister cos he liked the affection?
have you asked for more affection?
you're being very selfish and not helping either brothers as this will permanently damage their relationship and hurt their entire family.
stop now, leave them both and stop hurting people you claim to care about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): Your guy deserves better than you. No committed girlfriend would sleep with her guys brother. Break it off and let him find true love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): Well you already lost your boyfriend. You should definitely try to break-up with your boyfriend. I sincerely hope you do.
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (17 May 2006):
 Oh dear sounds complicated the first thing is be hinest with your boy friend tell him what you have done and you are not happy with him and that you like his brother you can;t have two men you can have one basically two's a comapny thress a crowd so decide who it is you really wnat because sleeping with his brother was out of order as you could create trouble .
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