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writes:i blacked out and ended up sleeping with my good friends boyfriend, at the same time his best friend and i were seeing each other, i screwed up, now what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): If you were passed out drunk and the guy had sex with you its rape. If yo were "blacked out" as in really drunk and can't remember the night its an excuse, and you're just as guilty as the guy. Either way the other people need to know what happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): Um well wow, er, well u shuld tell them how drunk you were and it was a mistake and hope they love u enough to forhgive you. PRAY
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (30 August 2010):
 What advice are you looking for? Are you still dating this other guy? Do you want to know if you should tell the guy you are seeing? Tell your best friend? Do you want to see this new guy you have slept with? We need some more information to be able to help you.
For the record, blacking out is just an excuse people use for wanting to have sex with somebody else. Blacking out would mean that you have no recollection of the actual sexual event and that you had no chance to stop it from occurring, therefor signifying rape. Do you remember having sex? Did you have the opportunity to say no? If you didn't have a chance to say no then this is a serious issue that requires legal action and you must contact your local authorities.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 August 2010):
 Blacked out as in alcohol was involved and you passed out now don't remember a thing? I'm thinking you somewhat initiated it, or he had sex with you without any consent. In this case, I would tell your good friend before her boyfriend tells her what happened, then you will look like the betraying slut. Tell her what you remember, she's going to be pissed no matter what but at least you'll save her from dating a loser like that and maybe you guys can be friends again. And the guy your seeing, you're only seeing him so he has no right to be mad that you slept with someone else..he may or may not resent you, chances are probably not guys seem to be a little more forgiving than girls. Think about it if your good friend blacked out and slept with your boyfriend(even though you're just seeing him but let's pretend he's your boyfriend) wouldn't you want to know?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): Well firstly it depends more on your feelings towards the boy and your ex boyfriend. If you blanked out it couldn't of been your fault and more the other persons. So i think you should tell your friend what happened as she should understand and realize what the boy shes dating is all about. It's not fair on her being hidden in the dark about this, think about how you'd feel in her position. Forget the boy and explain things to your ex-boyfriend if theres still any remaining feelings and hope he will be ok with it and take you back. Otherwise move on and forget all that happened, apologize to your ex and your friend and keep your fingers crossed. I will too xx
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