I slept with another guy out of revenge and now I'm feeling guilty!

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I've been with my boyfriend officially for nearly 4 months and unofficially 2 months before we got together for good, I'm 18 and he's 19. I know that doesn't sound like the longest relationship but I seriously love him to pieces, I've never met anyone like him and I can't imagine my life without him ever again, we just click. However, the problem arose around the time we were seeing each other before we started going out properly. Him and his ex were going out for about a year and despite the fact him and her had been broken up for almost a year before me and him first met, she was completely walking all over him, i'll keep this short but she was using her "depression" as an excuse and the fact her mum still saw him as part of the family and he was pretty much keeping me a secret from her and was still regularly staying at her house overnight although I know they weren't doing anything and he just felt obliged. This was about the most horrible thing ever as by this point i'd completely fallen for him and he was having to cover up my existence to her to stop her from going psycho and it was getting to the stage where he'd ditch me to hang out with her and he'd cross the road or go into another room to speak to her on the phone. It got to the stage where we'd been seeing each other for nearly 2 months and he still said nothing about us actually being a couple and i'd just had enough, I spent half the time completely miserable and the other half of the time just desperately wanting to be with him. One night, one of my friends came to mine and she told me that the guy had shared a bed with his ex and that was the final straw and I went absolutely mental. I was so hurt that I decided for once I wanted to hurt him, so I called up another one of my guy mates, went to his house and had sex with him, just because I could. I was upset the whole time and was purely doing it out of revenge, I felt mega guilty and two days after that, me and my now boyfriend made it official after he told his ex to leave him alone because we wanted to be together. I now feel soo guilty and like I need to tell him as although we weren't technically together at the point, i feel like such a horrible person...:( but i cant lose him, we're literally perfect together and i never want to be with anyone else :( what should i do?

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