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*ittburgh412
writes:About two years ago, I was talking to this girl and we would talk everyday for about 6 months. One day I received a text from her telling me she wanted more out of us and intitially I agreed, however after five days I thought it was wrong and told her that I just wasn't ready. She said that was fine and offered to pick it up when I was ready. After two years, (A) how do I tell if she is still into me we do not interact nearly as much as we used to and (B) if she is into me how do I let her know I am ready?
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reader, pittburgh412 +, writes (25 November 2010):
pittburgh412 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis is in response as to why I was not ready...
She does not know the real reason thank god or else she probably would not talk to me again. The real reason why I was not ready was that two years ago I was a lot less mature, and I could not deal with my friends comments about the two of us so I just tried to get out of it.
It sounds like a stupid reason and it is one, however I would like to try and fix this mistake.
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reader, ImogenLD  +, writes (25 November 2010):
Two years thats a long time and I think you need to be realistic the chances are she has moved on with her life. Even if she said she would wait that is a long time to wait if you don't keep in contact that much. However she could very well be still waiting for you the only way your going to know is if you put yourself out there and just ask her. Tell her how you feel tell her why you have changed your mind and ask her if there is a chance of sorting things out and getting back together. Rememeber these things take time and you may have to wait abit because you may have hurt this girl when you ended things two years ago and it will take time for her to trust you.
Hope she takes you back
Imogen x
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reader, YouWish +, writes (25 November 2010):
 Well, the easy answer would be to just have a talk with her and tell her how you feel now. However, what's missing from what you wrote is - why weren't you ready two years ago, and what weren't you ready for?
You weren't ready for a relationship? You weren't ready to settle down? To commit? Or were you unsure of HER?
You have a tougher battle now, because when you left her, you really hurt her. What can you do to convince her that it won't end the same way with you not being ready for something else? How can you reassure her that you won't hurt her again?
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