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writes: my girl told me she needs a breakup after which u told me to forget her due to the way she behaves knowing that i loved her much. then she never think by relenting, avoiding and harrassing me just because of the way i begged her to be back. apologising no matter who was wrong.Later after u wrote me to forget about her and move on with my friends. it's really a hard situation for me cos she's part of me. seeing anyother girl is not attracting to me in the sense that she has eloped me.then i carried up ur advice and went on with my life as if notin happen. Since then i haven't contacted her or ask of her. till one day i saw her missed call in my phone.it all started again every thought of her revolved my mind but i didn't call, untill i found out that i violated what u told me to do ,as to forget about her and show her my feelings. nevertheless, i couldn't control hiding my feelings inside when i sent her a christmas card, my picture and a writing telling her to come back to me.since i did this, i regretted all my actions an will abide and be a man if u can give me a solution towards this my case cos i thought seeing her number in my phone that she's trying to come back but the approach i made was wrong but i found out later on. for she didn't get the card from me directly. i gave it to a friend of her but she didn't make any comment when the bearer gave it to her. plz i need ur help.
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (29 December 2005):
 Sweetpea
There is nothing wrong with the way you reacted, it's a perfectly normal reaction especially if you have such intense feelings for her.
And the christmas card just showed that you are a better person, for thinking of her on a special day.
That type of emotion is really hard to find in a guy.
If you really want to forget about her then do what you did before, hang out with friends be strong and every time you feel you need to contact her call one of your best mates instead.
Take things easy because opening up emotional scars is like opening an old wound that hasn't healed completely, it will take time for it to re-heal and that will take time, but it will heal.
Don't rush yourself, try to find closure and that is the first step to a full recovery.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (28 December 2005):
 Dear Issac, Of course it will be difficult to stay away from contacting her and i understand that u became a little more confused getting a missed call from her. Next time please be patient and wait for her to call u back.
Also, u mentioned u sent her a card. its ok. dont dwell too much for her to respond. take ur mind off this at the moment. if she contacts u fine if not then dont worry ur head.
You have to be very strong now. she ended the relationship i can assume and u did mention that she was avoiding and harrasing u when u kept begging to reconsider. dont do this to urself.u cant humiliate urself becos of her.
wait for her to take the next step if not move on men. there are a lot of youg ladies out there that would do anything to be with someone as sweet as u. i know u dont think this is possible now but give it time.
Meanwhile keep hanging out with friends as u were advised to do and do alot of activities to take your mind off stuff.
Goodluck and please take things alot easier. the next time u write i want to hear good things happening to u.
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