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writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for 9 months now. He is absolutly WONDERFUL!! Hed do anything for me and i love him soo damn much. But i have a situation..Last Christmas an EX-friend of his told me that hed cheated on me with a particular girl. I immediatly called him and asked him about it and he said he had been with this girl but it was long before me and that this guy was only trying to create problems. Which i wouldnt put past this guy. My boyfriend and I met through him but neither of us talk to him anymore because hes not a good person. Regardless, my boyfriend didnt cheat on me.I checked her out on facebook and decided to ask her. They hadnt seen eachother in a long time. It was completly over with them. So now! It has been 6 months, and i cant stop thinking about her. I know he didnt cheat on me with her but thats not the issue. Even with my last boyfriend I was the same way. I couldnt get his Ex out of my head. The thought of my boyfriend being with someone else is so hard for me to deal with. We live together now, and i want to have this great relationship that i know we can, but its me!! it MY fault!! because i bring up all this nonsence from the past. I know he loves me! And i know hes not cheating on me. But why do i think this way?? Why cant i get her out my head? Im assuming its my own insecurities!! but like ive said it was like this in my last relationship too. Can someone pleasse help me save my relationship!! I feel as if im destined to be alone because im the cause of my own unhappiness!! The mind is a powerful thing, i need to learn how to block out these thought that get me upset!!!! I just dont know how...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2008): If you check out (my virgin bride wasn't a virgin ) you will see that I can truly understand your position on this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): Try taking the focus off of others and put it where it needs to be.....on you. He will leave you because of you, not her, so make sure you are treating him the way he deserves to be treated.
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reader, Star_07  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 We all come with a past, or at least a lot of us do.
How would you feel if your boyfriend obsessed over your past boyfriends? That wouldnt make you feel comfortable and happy, now would it?
Focus on this: He is with YOU now. He is not with them for a REASON and you should think about that. He loves you, he wants you, and thats all that should matter!
Take Care!
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