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writes:Is there like a mental disease or something happening to me? I'ts been more than a year now and I can't seem to get my room organized. I'm an adult, I graduated for college and all and I live with my parents. I have my own room which is quite small 10x10. But that's no excuse. The more I want to organize my room the more I don't do it. I'm not the kind of people who collects things I have normal amounts of everything. I really have the time to organize it I want to but I have no motivation at all. I think I've gotten used to live like a pig. Well, I do take out the trash like every other day. It's not about trash but about disorganization. I don't know how to be organized. But, Could it be that I'm like trying to control that part of my life for some reason? Am I unconciously choosing to leave it messy? Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): There could be lots of things going on here. You may feel as though you don't have enough 'value' placed in your own space to feel it is worthy of being organised and tidy. You may actually subconsciously like to leave it messy because this represents some kind of freedom which you don't have elsewhere. There is a brilliant programme on TV here in the UK whereby a person with a messy bedroom gets absolutely everything out of it and puts it on the grass outside the house and looks at every single thing and, with a helper, chucks out all the rubbish. It is best done out of context of the room itself then you are looking starkly at the contents. When you have chucked stuff out (and you have to be really ruthless) you can have a look at the empty shell. Maybe you could consider a room makeover - even a lick of paint and a new blind up could really help you. Then you can re-position your things back in the room. Consider good storage space too. Take pride in yourself and your room. Consider it the first step in getting organised before you leave living with your parents possibly and getting a place of your own one day. Hope this helps. Have a good Xmas!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): I understand your situation and to give you some consolations, I am the same. I can't wait to see answers and comments from people. There thing is that I live alone in a 3/2 house and it is really getting messier everyday. For me is the same, my house is not dirty is just very disorganized, like clothes all over, jewerly, unpack lodge, you name it. I travel and work a lot, but I belive I do have time to be orginized, but I don't feel the motivation. Specially, 'cause I don't have any friends who visits my house, so there is no need to have it organized. I don't even have proper furniture. I have a blue sofa and a green sofa..ha..!@!!!!
I have a close friend who is extremelly organized, and I asked her how did she do it? She replyed by saying that she's always been organized about everything; like she plans everything accordingly and her house is spotless.
Maybe we are just disorganized people, but you don't have to take it. Make it a resolution for the year 2008. ( it has been my resolution for about 5 years no)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): Sometimes I'm like that, I just look at it as a mess but I'm too lazy to do anything about it. In other areas like projects for school or term papers I think I'm the same way. Sometimes I just procrastinate and I think it's because I have some sort of fear of failure-like if I work on it hard from the beginning and it ends up crappy I feel bad. I don't know if I can really explain it. But I think I know exactly what you're talking about because I think I am the same way. I don't think there is anything wrong with you, and if there is, then there is something wrong with me too!
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reader, Butterflyfly  +, writes (23 December 2007):
 i was a spoiled brat when living with my parents, my mum effectively catered for me. i had the same problem when i was living on my own, i think you nailed it, it;'s about motivation. if you don;t see any good coming out of it that will please you, tidying up will feel worthless. to me what works is knowing others will enjoy my efforts too.i am organised only when i live with someone ( preferably tidy as well!!!). i think being organised is a way of life, of finding reward in every little thing that you do. you will perhaps have to imagine how great it will feel when everything is tidy and how much will that improve your life, detail by detail, and so every chore can become a pleasure. i hope this makes sense!!! :-)
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