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writes:hey, just wanted to know I'm 20 years old and have just got my 1st girlfriend, my girfriends has 2 other guys 1 for 2 months and one for 2 weeks, both cheated on her, the 2 week relationship was more of a physical relationship which bothered me slightly, shes also had a fling and she has kissed a couple of random guys in clubs, I have only ever kissed one girl properly before I got with my girlfriend We've been together for 3 months now and I feel comfortable around her and she feels the same. I am always laughing and smiling around her, shes been the most physical with me and I broke her in by fingering her, which is obviously meant to be a big thing for a girl right?? By the way I was the first guy she let down below to finger her. I just wanted to know as she has kissed more guys and had more experience.I seem to feel quite inadequate and insecure and jealous, because I feel I have missed out in my younger days, I have this bad feeling of regret within myself and I really hate this feeling. I just want to think about the present and future and I want to forget about her past how do I do this????? And why has it effected me soo much??? help me someone plz...xxxxp.s she has said... told me that she has never felt like this for someone before, and she ws saying she has given me her heart? She is a virgin
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2007): What past? This woman is a virgin..she has no past! lol All she did was kiss a few guys before she knew you even existed. Get those inadequacies, those feelings of insecurities and jealousies underwraps or you will be one lonely dude, guy. I am seeing a guy who wants a woman, who has never 'had a life' before him. He wants a perfect woman, custom made just for him. Sorry to say...that's impossible-she simply doesn't exist. And why are you and her discussing the details of past liasons anyways?? Both of you...stop doing this and move forward. When anyone allows their own personal self doubts to over rule what could become a potentially, happy, wonderful relationship with someone, he/she is setting himself for disaster after disaster in the love department. Her little past indiscretions which are soooo minor, should not even be fazing you. When you begin to find that these 'little things' bug you when they clearly shouldn't, I have to say stop using these 'little things' as excuses to cover up your fear of being inadequate. That is so unfair to her. She sounds like a great girl. And let me say, dear...girls like this are tough to find. Enjoy the treasure you have in her. No really understand, take a good hard long look at this fear you have, because it will wreak havoc on your future. Work on getting that attitude out of your head for good. Work on your confidence and begin practising a ton of self-love. Learn to just relax and allow this relationship to develop and grow, slowly. Take care and good luck, dear.
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