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writes:I'm a 19 year old girl. I had a pretty bad childhood, my dad was a herion addict and I rarely saw/see him. This doesn't bare much of a burden on my life, I don't mind my past. To me it's fine, but some people say it's why I have this problem:I have had a string of 2 years relationships since I was 14. I skip from bloke to bloke. And even when I'm with a guy, I cheat at almost any opportunity - friends, his friends etc, around 5 different people during the 2 years I've been with my current boyfriend. I know it's horribly wrong. I just constantly feel the need to be loved and wanted and I don't understand why. I literally feel like I fall in love with everyone I sleep with or even share a moment with. I really want some help, I hate being like this and hate what it's doing to others - even though I have never been caught. Any advice would be very appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): I dont think i would really be anyone if there wasnt something wrong with me... i've never thought about that before.
I have no self acceptance, if i get time alone (which is rare as i hate being alone) I find i cannot think. I mearly exist. Thank you, i'd never thought about that before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): Hi, I know this might be deep but bare with me.One: there is nothing wrong with you. When you think this how does it make you feel? Who would you be if there was nothing wrong with you?Two: You look for LOVE outside yourself because you do not know how to rely on yourself for love meaning you do not love yourself. When someone comes along you feel loved.Its a mirror game. The person you have these feelings for simply mirrors back what your creating yourself.There are 5 needs that need to be met as a human especially as a infant or child. They are Acceptance, Appreciation, Allowing, Attention, and Affection. We learn at a very young age when we are recieving these. This is our encoding. We grow up and go out in the world looking for them. When someone can mirror back to us how we recieved these things as a child this is what our body says is LOVE. You need to start thinking about how you received these as a child and notice the pattern. There is nothing wrong with you. You need to give these things to yourself and learn to love yourself. Forgive yourself.
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