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writes:okay, this isn't your usual problem. But it is really becoming a problem.I have a 2 year old son and a loving partner we are a happy family all in all. But I am becoming convinced that I am going to lose either my son or my partner, or both. I am becoming incresingly anxious and uptight almost obbsessed with death. everytime my partner is late i assume he has had a car crash, i forever worry that when my son isn't with me something is going to happen to him. It is beginning to drive me insane, i get very tearful over what if thoughts. and with all the stabbings and horrific accidents that have been happening lately im almost convinced its a matter of time before it will affect me. a year ago my friends sister was killed and since that my feelings have steadily worsened, i realise how precious life is and how easily its gone. i find myself thinking i dont know how long i have left with my loved ones, i shouldnt be thinking that!In a way i feel as though, i dont deserve to be happy and i dont deserve my son or partner especially my son i treasure absoloutley every moment with him. I know reading that last para back it sounds ridiculous that i dont deserve it, i cant stop feeling like this i have had to stop reading newspapers because whatever story i read i imagine its happening to me! please give me some advice on how to get over this and enjoy life. i have no one to talk about this to. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): I think you should start by getting checked for postpartum/ peripartum depression. Talk to your doctor about whats going on with you, they will help. Good Luck!
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (2 January 2008):
 Huni at one point in all of our lives we have all had to come to terms with death and the fact that yeah we are all going to die its the only thing we have ever been garrunteed in our lives we have to cherish every moment and every memory, life ends we cant stop it we dont control when where or how but it does end.
But when you obsses over it our fear grows and becomes the main focus of our lives and thats not good you need to distract yourself from your thoughts(when your waiting for your partner to come home find something to do to take your mind off it go for a walk anything that stops you from clock watching and getting more anxious, but i think you ought to go and find a councillor to talk it through and to find out what triggered you so much and why its still continuing to trigger you im sorry im not much help to you i can see how upset you are but sometimes just talking over phobias helps lessen the burden.
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