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writes:I have told my boyfriend twice now that I love him. Both times he has not said anything......AT all. The first time was after 3 months. Sure thats early on in a relationship but unlike many people it dosent take me years to decide if I care about someone. 6 months later I said it again and.....again he didn't say it back.My last relationship of 8 years was like this. I loved him and he never loved me. I always thought if I showed him how much I loved and cared for him that he would evnetually feel the same I was so stupid thinking that I had enough love for the two of us.That is why this is so important to me. I cant go through that again. If he wasn't so amazing and didn't ACT like he loved me then I would have called this off by now. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): You cannot break up with someone you are in love with becuase he doesn't feel exactly the same way. You would be breaking your own heart.
Wouldn't you rather know where this relationship is going?
It is unusual for him 9 months later to say nothing at all.
You went six months in between saying though.. prehaps you just say it when you feel it.
And make a direct confrontation. Tell him it's ok if he doesn't love you yet, but you want him to know that you love him but you want to make sure that the relationship IS going somewhere.
Communication.
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