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writes:I am so sad and tired. My boyfriend of 6 years has become completely disloyal to me. One example, We auditioned for a play together recently and I was disappointed that I did not make callbacks and therefore would not be getting a speaking part in the show. It is a play I really want to do.I expressed this to him privately! I had a great audition. So I might still get a small role but he told the director that I was upset that I wasn't called back. I have been in three shows with this man as fellow actors and he is not a touchy, feely guy. I had asked my boyfriend not to say anything but he did anyway. Now I am not even getting a small part because I am being seen as a "trouble maker". Every time we have a discussion about anything or anyone he takes the other person's side. He told me that he was not upset because the director has the right to cast anyone he wants. Well, duh. I just wanted him to sympathise with me. Recently his daughter was eating dinner at our house and I was sharing something that had happened to me. She told me "No one, wants to hear your stories. We just want to talk about our family." Not only did he not correct her manners, he repeated what she said to me the next day. As if it was a character flaw on my part to be a part of the discussion. A discussion happening around my dinner table eating a meal I had cooked for them.An old girlfriend of his has been writing emails to him bad mouthing me and calling me a bitch. Offering him sex. When I got upset he defended her saying that she is just upset that she is not dating him anymore! I am at the end of my rope. My luggage is at the end of the bed. I say he is the most disloyal man ever and he says he is just being honest about his emotions. Help...I am crying while I am writing this. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2013): " I say he is the most disloyal man ever and he says he is just being honest about his emotions. "
He can be honest about his emotions AND disloyal at the same time, and it certainly seems to be the case. being honest doesn't mean that it's acceptable. is right and you are always wrong? Even if he honestly feels that, but why? you're better off without this guy.
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reader, llifton +, writes (3 July 2013):
 yeah. i'd pick up my luggage and go. sounds like the apple didn't fall too far from the tree and his daughter is rude and tactless just like him. i'd haul ass.
i'm sorry you're dealing with all of this.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 July 2013):
 He's being cruel and nasty and hiding behind his cloak of honesty.
If you do not have a financial stake in the house.. leave now. Take all your stuff... if you have joint accounts.. take your money and GO...
no one needs this abuse in the name of honesty.
IF my adult children spoke to my partner as his daughter spoke to you they would be asked to leave my home and not return till they could respect my partner. He won't do that since he has no respect for you.
you are not a doormat and you deserve better.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (3 July 2013):
 If you own the house with him, before you leave, consult an attorney. There are some counterintuitive things you have to do in order to protect your financial assets. Leaving the house might mean that you are abandoning your claim on your possessions.
So first thing, contact a really good attorney and map out a game plan for your exit. You shouldn't take a financial hit because he's disrespectful and doesn't value your relationship enough to protect it.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 July 2013):
 I know it's painful to leave this relationship but I truly believe it won't be all that long before you'll be kicking yourself for not doing it sooner. You go girl and find that happiness you deserve.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (3 July 2013):
Pick the luggage up and walk out the door. Block his number/Facebook/etc.
Find a better guy after a being single for awhile.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (3 July 2013):
 I think you already know what you have to do, that is why you are asking a question. The man obviously has some serious issues with kindness and manners and that was NOT OK for him to wreck your relationship with that director. Unless he is incredibly stupid, I would venture he did it on purpose for some reason. He obviously seems to have a disdain in general for "people" and I wouldn't wasn't another second on this toxic relationship if I were you. I'm sorry, I know leaving any relationship is hard, but it's clearly making you absolutely miserable. That's not worth staying for.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (3 July 2013):
 Honey, why do let him and his children treat you with such disrespect. You would prefer to be miserable with a man like this or at peace single. Its time to lose the baggage and I do hope you and financially secure and that does not influence your decision to put up with this man.
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