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writes:me and my girlfriend have been together for a year on the 15th and i love her like no other, she is the sunshine of my world but a few months ago she began flirting with one of my friends, ive been cheated on in the past with all the serious relationships ive been in (3) and because of this i pretended it wasnt happening which ended up with me ending up in tears every time i saw them together but eventually about 2 months later i realised that if i didnt do something i would lose her forever.i spoke to the guy and he said if it wasnt for me he would have asked my girlfriend out. i also talked to my gf and when i told her id noticed she burst out crying and said she was sorry and that i deserved better and i do believe her when she says she loves me but ever since then i cant help but feel upset when i see them talking and when im with her occasionally all i can think about is them together and whether she would be happier with him. i know im probably just over reacting but when i asked her if she'd cheat on me she went very quiet and eventually said she didnt trust herself which horrified me as i could see what had happened in my old relationships happening all over again.this girl means everything to me, i buy her flowers, i treat her like a goddess and she is my world, i really think she's the one but i cant see us lasting with me at college and her at sixth form i think were going to end up apart and i cant stand that thought.please help me and give me some advice on what i should dothanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionin response to crawfy we both have never cheated on anyone i said ive been cheated on as in other girls have cheated on me in psat relationships and im still confused cz i dont think she'd cheat on me but she said to me after one party i went to with her and the guy that she felt like holding him and hugging him but she also told me another time that if she cheated on me she would hate herself for it, but tbh ive heard the same thing 3 times and if she did cheat on me that would be it but i dont think i could just give her up (thank you for your advice so far though)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): Im really sorry that this is happening to you. You seem like a good guy, and you probably dont desrve this. I know what it feels like, and some of the best advice I got was to realize its not your fault this is happening, she didnt single you out to be hurtful to. Its in her character to be this way. Do you really want to be with someone like that? The fact that she got really quiet pretty much tells me shes cheated on you, or atleast thinks about it and wants to. Be grateful it only took you a year to realize this and not 7, like it did me. True love is something everyone thinks they deserve, but only the people brave enough to pursue it, and know when to stop trying with someone have even a chance of success. There are lots of good girls that would never treat their best freind and lover the way this one does. Your still very young, and youre too good for her. My heart goes out to you, good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): that relationship doesn't seem very reliable. if youve both cheated then should you really be together? i know what you mean but maybe you're just not ready for a srious relationship. keep yourselves together and discuss it. if you love eachother youll stay if not then you wont its as simple as that
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