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writes:So I know this guy for about 4 days now. We met when I was stuck in my car on a road and he helped me to get back home. Then he asked me for my phone number and I gave him, because he was acting sweet and I thought we could make good friends. He started calling me and we talked about 5 mins every day and he said he would help me to go to buy a new battery for my car. I said I would appreciate his help because I'm a real freakin noob in cars. So today we went to the store and bought that thing and while driving back we spoke a little about traveling and stuff, then he told me he would like me to go with him to another city next week. I love traveling so I said yes. But I kinda regret it now... He's all sweet and fun but still he's not my cup of tea. I mean if he lift he would look better, cause I like guys with muscles and he just looks weak. Really I don't know what he thinks about me. If he likes me only as a friend then I'm fine, but if he invited me to go with him because he's thinking of me in a romantic way then it's too bad. And I feel awkward now due to all the confusion. What should I do?And I'm taller than him and it also makes me feel insecure. It's just an inch maybe but still...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 December 2017):
 If you are so shallow that you would only date a guy who lifts then yes be honest with this guy and don't lead him on.
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reader, N91 +, writes (27 November 2017):
 I agree with honeypie, it sounds like you're getting into the territory of leading this guy on.
You don't like him romantically and that's fine, but it would be the right thing to do to inform him of that as I think it's giving the wrong answer signals if you're accepting his invitations to places.
Who knows, maybe he is looking for new friends, but I highly doubt it, the majority of times when a male pursues something with a female it's with romantic intentions therefore I'd talk to him before things get any deeper.
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reader, OMG.ThatsCool  +, writes (27 November 2017):
 It actually seems to me very soon for him to ask you to travel with him. You guys have just met 4days ago! But if you think you trust him enough and you love travelling, then go ahead and give it a try!
You can easily give him signs that you're not interested in him as a romantic partner. After all, he may just want to be friends too, you never know.
Besides, you still have a week ahead of you to be sure what he really wants from you; and then decide.
It's all about the signs you show him!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 November 2017):
 You have already decided that you do NOT like him in "that" way. The whole "if he lifted" is bogus and you looking for reasons to not take it any further.
So CALL the guy and tell him that you have to cancel the trip to the other city.
And STOP accepting help from this guy. Yes, you might be a noob when it comes to batteries for your car (me too!) but I still got the RIGHT one by going into AutoZone and ASKING them (all you have to do is tell them the make/model of the car and the car is was produced and Voila! there is the type of battery you need. NOT rocket science. By accepting his help you are ENCOURAGING him to keep contacting you. You are in other words, stringing him along.
You aren't interested, so TELL him. You don't have to be rude about it but you DO need to speak up. Don't waste his time OR your own. If all you want him from is being friends PUT it out there so HE can decide if that is what HE wants too or not.
You don't fancy him and you don't owe him squat. BUT you do "owe" him to be honest and not string him along.
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