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writes:Got a bit of a problem and I really don't know what to do so really need advice. I'm originally from Scotland moved down to London about 2 years ago to go to university. I recently started dating a new guy I met at university and we've been going out for about a month - nothing serious yet but I do genuinally like him. It's all been going really well, even though we've both gone home to our families for Christmas and I find I'm missing him loads and cant wait to see him again when we both get back to flats in London. Whilst I've been back home something has happened and it's really thrown me. I bumped into my high school boyfriend. We lost contact 4 years ago and haven't spoken since but then there he was and we recognised each other immiedietly and went over. We chatted for a bit and swapped numbers because even though we used to date, we were good mates at high school as well. We've been texting each other ever since and talking on the phone and now I'm worried that all the feelings I had for him as a teenager are coming back. There's something about him which just makes me feel at home. Maybe he represents something to me, I don't know. We have history together - we were high school sweethearts and even though we lost contact for 4 years (I actually changed my name which might be why he couldn't find me) we were very close. We keep joking about all the things we got up to and now Im worried about the situation with the guy Im dating. I don't even know id I want to go back out with my ex boyfriend, all I know is that there is something there which feels unfinished and my gut is telling me I need to look in to it more. I really dont know what to do. If I hadnt bumped in to my ex, everything with the guy I am dating in London would be perfect and I'm unsure if I could even throw that all a way - he's a nice guy and hes lovely to me. The ironic thing in all this is 4 months ago I said I was having nothing more to do with men and was going to focus on uni work. That was going well and then I met my current bf, and now I've bumped in to my ex and I'm confused about what to do - help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): ex boyfriens are bad news, if it doesnt work the first time why would it work now? your best bet would be to give your new guy a chance, go away for the weekend...........if you feel that your feelings are less for your current boyfriend, be single for awhile and if you still miss your high school sweetheart arrange to meet sometime and see where it goes...he might be the man of your dreams after all....
take care and good luck
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