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anonymous
writes:Please can anyone help me to win back my man? 3 months ago I was delighted when a very good friend of mine declared that he had feelings for me and had done for some time. I shared his feelings and we began a long distance relationship. This was great at first but gradually I noticed that the contact was dropping off on his side. This bothered me and I texted him a few times to let him know that if this didn't improve I would end the relationship. Each time he would respond straight away and put my mind at rest but then the contact would tail off again. Eventually I sent him a text to say that I wanted out of the relationship. He responded by explaining to me that he hadn't been able to communicate with anyone and that he was suffering from depression (having been good friends for a long time I knew he had been very unwell with this in the past) and he apologised. In the heat of the moment I responded saying that he should have talked to me about it before and that I wanted only to be friends. Now I regret jumping the gun and I feel I have forced him into a position where he has no choice to accept that we will be just good mates again. But that's not what I really want - so why did I say I did?!? I really feel I have blown what could have been the start of a fantastic relationship and I don't know how to put it back on track.
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (25 July 2010):
 Perhaps you should call him and tell him that you think you made a huge mistake. I'm sure you did that because you wanted more time with him, to try and make him talk to you more then he was doing.
Its completely understandable, but all I think you need to do is talk with him and tell him how you feel now, the rest is up to him after that point.
*Lizzy*
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