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writes:Am I stupid ?I dumped my bf 3 weeks ago! It was a short one of 4 months He was cheating on me and dating others, he was stingy, liar , opportunistic and so sensitive , always uses me , always he has no money But loved him (I hate my heart)It was a painful relationship! 10% love 90% pain ! Glad that I'm done I ended and didn't it up I blocked him from all social media and calling me It was my decision to end this I gave him a big amount of money and he didn't return it and had no intention toThis relationship depressed me , made me hate the sunshine I'm going through it and moving on quickly although i had some thoughts of going back together! I miss him sometimes and I knew that he is not worth it Last night I did a stupid thing I was out with my friends and it was a great night , dinner in a nice place , good wine and music , got to see nice people I felt so good On my way home I passed to a local bar to have a drink and see who's there I saw my ex He didn't see me ( he wasn't facing me) I wanted to leave but couldn't ! I spent 15 minutes thinking of talking to him or leaving! I took the wrong step and walked towards him and said hi ! He looked back with half smile , evil smile , mean smile ! Said hi back and ignored me , like no one here ! Smiled and walked away I felt so bad ! But at the same time glad that I will never cry on him and no intention to see him again. I don't know why I did that ! I wanted to test his emotions or to see how would he reacts! There was a little hope of something else But once I left I felt that no way to look back ! I deleted his pictures , damaged his gifts ! And removed him from my heart Was saying hi to him make me look cheap or underestimate me What would he think of me ? If this happens to u what you think of the person?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2015): I d be thinking of asking for my money back if i said hi to anyone who had cheated me out of it. Im sure he thought you were going to remind him he owed you cash . So now youve said hi , why cant you slap him through a civil court (small claims court) and actually get it back. Then you will feel good about yourself.Avoid that snake like the plague other than for court claim and move on with your life, cautiously for now until you are sure of your emotions and feel strong in yourself. What was thepoint of going into a bar your ex frequents..why would you do that ..unless you wanted to corner him for your money back?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 June 2015):
 You said he used you, so .. he probably didn't CARE a great deal for you. And his reaction was definitely one to make YOU feel bad about yourself.. and it worked.
Saying hi to an ex doesn't make you look cheap, unless you fling yourself on the floor begging him to take you back.
WHO CARES what he thinks? You describe a total asshat so really in the over all scheme of things WHO THE F cares what some loser troll ex BF thinks of you! Learn to have that attitude. KEEP ignoring him. If you run into him again, FEEL free to pretend he isn't there.
And NEVER "lend" money to a partner if you can't AFFORD to give them the amount, because not EVERYONE is going to have the DECENCY to pay you back.
I think you are being a LITTLE over dramatic though, with the whole... I LOVE HIM... blah blah... No you didn't, you BARELY knew him. YOU were INFATUATED with the IDEA of him. How you hoped he would be, not who he actually is. 4 months is a short time. Let it go. Accept that YOU made a BIG mistake dating someone like him, but that MISTAKES happen.
And damaging his gift? What's the point of that? It's not like he is going to know that or care.
LET it go.
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