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writes:Morning all.I did an awful thing a few years back and now im not sure if im to blame for her future..About 8 years ago when i was in high school i had this friend Vikki-when i say friend she used to hang around with me because i was the dull brunette and she was the pretty,skinny blonde...Anyway she always wanted to get in to modelling...she had done a few fashion shows in our town for charity. Then there was an advertisment in the paper asking for child,adult models...they wanted a CV with a headshot photo to be sent. Vikki immediatly went got her mum to take loads of photos and she did look stunning.I obviously was jealous...so when she asked me to post her cv and photo because she had got ill (think it was the flu)i saw an opportunity to get some sort of revenge and i found a photo of a 2nd cousin of mine taken the previous year on holiday (she was by no means pretty)and put that photo in with the CV and took Vikkis out.bviuosy a few weeks later she got a letter saying she hadnt been successful etc...(luckily the advertisment did advise that photos wouldnt be returned.Last night on Facebook Vikki contacted me and we got chatting. She has 2 children and divorced and working at a supermarket part time. We spoke about the old days and she mentioned this modelling application and how if she only got called back how different her life would have been (she did stop taking care of herself after the rejection letter). I cant stop blaming myself for what i did but i will never admit to her i did it. I mean there were no gurantees her photo would have been accepted but all the hype and hope people gave her i now realise how much she relied on it.Did i really ruin her future???
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (22 May 2009):
 Well what you did was very mean and pretty harsh, and you clearly did hamper her chances of becoming a model. But just as Emilysanswers says, she didnt have to give up so easily and you are in no way responsible for her attitude. You will never know if even if you had sent that photo of her in (the real one) that she would have been chosen, so you can take some comfort in that.
But still, that was a horrible thing for you to do, I cant believe someone could be so jealous of another person that you would do something like that, you basically ruined her chance at her dream! So you should feel pretty guilty, and you are partly responsible for her giving up completely on modelling. But I guess now you have found out what has happened to her then you are feeling pretty bad so there i no need for me to make you feel worse!
Like Emilysanswers says, there are other career options for her and it isnt your fault she is working in a supermarket - she could make more of herself if she wanted. You are not responsible for her attitude towards working, and maybe she was just to narrow-minded to think of any career other than modelling.
There is not a lot of point in beating yourself up about this, you cant change your past and what you did was very wrong but we all make mistakes, you just have to try and forget about it. She shouldnt be living life on a "what if" either, she should have made things happen for herself rather than relying on a competition in a local paper!
I hope this helps!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 May 2009):
Looks like you may have had a hand yes.
But look, the model agency didn't write back and say "you are not allowed to have a back up career and must take no more than minimum wage for the rest of your life."
Plus she could easily have sent off to other agencies rather than giving up so fast.
If you want to make it up to her then help her find training courses and find a new dream. Modelling and Tescos are not the ONLY thing that we girls are allowed to do you know.
Get her into further education or help her come up with something creative she can do from home around her kids.
Good Luck!! xx
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