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41-50,
*endy2012
writes:I am married to a stingy husband and am begining to resent him. We both earn but he totally refuses to contribute towards my loan repayments for our house because its in my name. I had most of the furniture when we got married and a car so we didnt hve to buy. Now everything needs replacement and he is not interested in doing anything about it. I buy most of the stuff at home and he refuses to budget with me. He would never buy me a present or just give me pocket money. . Apart ftom doing most of tge expense i have been doing chores alone. I feel angry. Talking hasnt helped what do i do. A planning on not giving him anything thing he has not bought. Today i just cooked for my kids and ignored him. I will also stop doing his laundry and i plan to give away all worn out furniture and wait for him to replace it. I am thinking this will embarass him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2018): This is so sad.??I could never be with a man like this. He lives there he drives the vehicles he enjoys the furniture. But yet nothing. So maybe you go on strike. And start charging him for his laundry dinner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2018): Why isn't the house in both your names? On this point I understand your husband-- if you expect him to contribute to the house, you need to be fair and have it in both of your names. If you two were to divorce, he would be destitute and not get any returns on providing for the house. It seems you two have been locked in a battle of wills for a long time. I think you need to get to the bottom of why he isn't contributing. Yes, he could be stingy, but he could also carry resentment for you that you seem stingy as well (never having the house in both your names). Only when you understand HIS perspective can you begin to solve the problem and compromise. I would advise against retaliating, which will only escalate a battle of wills. What you need to do is talk it out and both learn to compromise. If he agrees to start paying his part will you put the house in his name too after a certain number of payments?
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