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writes:Ok, my best guy friend is really awesome. He's really funny and intelligent too. We joke about silly things, like in fifth grade when he asked me out and I replied 'where?'We drifted apart once we left that school, because we were on different sides of the school timetable so our lessons were at different times.Now, I've been moved to his side of the timetable. We've become friends again and he's even invited me to his house a few times to play guitar hero and watch horror films. We're in eleventh grade, by the way.A few months ago he asked me out, and I rejected him. I instantly felt really bad and I apologised, but thank God he was still willing to be friends with me.We also went to his cousins party, along with lots of our other friends. He got reeeeaally drunk for the first time ever, it was so funny! My friends told me that during the party he had told them that he wants to ask me out, and I felt really strange, like butterflies in my stomach or something.He keeps on acting shy around me but none of his other friends who are girls. I also catch him looking at me so I grin and wave at him and he grins back, which usually gets us told off by the teacher!! He also cares about me, like when I'm upset he will comfort me and we have really long texting conversationsHe's gotten really nice-looking over the years, but my friends don't really think so. They think he's a bit strange, but they are nice to him.So I have two problems really;#1. I really regret turning him down. He's so cute and I want to ask him out but my second problem isss...#2. My friends don't seem to like him. Even if I did ask him out, they'd make fun of me forever and if he turned me down it would be ten times worse.......I'm really hoping someone can help!p.s, sorry if my spelling's wrong somewhere, I was raised by British parents and they spell some stuff differently I've heard :S
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 November 2010):
 Oh good! I admit I was too scared when I was your age too..so I used that little tool to let a guy know I was crushing and see if he asks me out. It does work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010): thank you sooo much everyone!
I told my friends about him and they were really nice about it, I think they might even tell him, because I'll wait to see if he asks me out again.
Also, I might hint to his cousin like you said tennisstar88.
Thanks for your help!! :) (I'll post here if we end up together :D)
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (4 November 2010):
1) you have to ask him out as he will probably be afraid of being rejected again
2) screw what your friends think
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (3 November 2010):
You know he's probably thinking the same thing, since you rejected him the first time..He's afraid that you'll reject him a second time. Someone's gotta make a move and ask the other out.
Another thought I had, why don't you tell his cousin that you want him to ask you out, and you definitely won't reject him this time..and wait till it gets back to your guy. See if he musters up the courage to ask you out again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010): I don't know why I turned him down, I guess I just wasn't ready, and thank you for the comment but I also don't think I have the confidence to ask :S
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010): why do you care what your friends think? if you found a nice boy you should grab him up while you can! dont judge him on how popular he is, popularity is just luck!! your friends dont have to look at him like bf materail, you do, they should like him as a friend. your friends are going to support you in your descion, trust that, and they'll probley look at him differant if you date him, theyll get the chance to see all the good in him like you do, which probley make him more cool. dont limit yourself to one group of people, you can date whoever you want, dorky guys actually make great boyfriends, they arent all wrapped up in flocks of girls, i bet he's probley smart too aint he?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (3 November 2010):
Just curious as to why you rejected him the first time?
Ask him out because you want to be with him, don't let your friends be the deciding factor. Real friends don't make fun of who you're going out with instead they support you and are happy that you found someone. As you said, they think he's strange but they are nice to him. I wouldn't worry about him rejecting you if he's still hanging around after you rejected him.
Ask him out!!
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