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writes:Hi,Okay, i need some honest advice. My girl and i have been broken up now for about 9 mos. We don't really keep in touch, either via e=mail or phone. we work 2 blocks away from one another. we had been together 5 years...her and I had a very deep and soulful connection. One in which she said how she was sure i was the one to be with her, the one she should marry.In short, we broke up last june after a tough but wonderful relationship...we both were not able to "grow up" all though i'm 39 she's 27. anyhow, a good friend asked how we were doing and i said, we had broken up awhile ago...she said, you guys were meant for one another..i said, well, she is dating some guy now, (not sure how sound it is as she works intense hours) but nonetheless, she isn't reaching out to me...we have run into one another a few times, and it was sweet, a bit flirty, but nothing more...anyow, my friend said, "you know she isn't going to chase you..she doesn't do that!" (true)...and if she wanted to marry you once, to trust her, she still has those feelings...in fact, you would still have a chance even if she were married...well, you can imagine my confusion...i still love her, and my friend brought to the surface all my emotions i had bottled away...now, i am not sure if i should try to reconnect with her, see if she is interested in some way...or, should i just leave her alone...i can say, that we did have a deep and intense connection sexually and otherways, that was nothing like i or her ever felt before...i am dating someone now, but all i think of is her...i wonder if she has just gotten over me and is not reminiscing of our times...so...i am very confused, and don't want to connect if it's hopeless, as i don't want to get hurt again.....i know she still loves me...we didn't break up out of hate or anger, in fact, it was sad, not hurtful....HELP!! i would love to hear the ladies thoughts on this...she's 28 now, and her bday is coming up in 2 weeks...will i look like a stalker, or pathetic? or is she thinking as much on me as i her? really, i need an honest answer....i really want to put a ring on her finger, and hope it's not too late...thanks!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): Well honey, first thing's first. You've got to end things with the person you're currently dating, because it's not fair on her really is it. If all you can think about is your ex, you shouldn't be with anyone else. But to me it seems that you're strongly in love with this girl, and you two shared so much.. How could that all be lost so suddenly? In my opinion you should make an effort to go see her, in a sweet way. Maybe drop in to her work, or wait around outside her work for when she comes out. Yes, she'll probably be tired, and she might put up a bit of a fight. But imagine you're in a sweet movie. In a half-jokey way, you could persuade her to meet you for a coffee one night or something.
I see why you'd think it's too late now, but nothing should stand in the way of love. You obviously love her, so no, you won't look pathetic. Her birthday's in 2 weeks.. Excellent opportunity!! Buy her something sweet, maybe give it to her the day before as she'll probably be busy on the actual day. It'll cheer her up to know you remembered, and cared to buy her something. I honestly wish you two all the best, you sound like a great couple, and it's never too late. Don't let anyone tell you it's too late. Go for it. Good luck :]
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (17 March 2008):
 Why did you break up to begin with?
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