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female
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anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for two years now and we have never had sexual intercourse. We have played around a lot with other practices such as oral sex but the one reason I have always shied away from intercourse is that I am absolutely terrified of getting pregnant. I am so torn up inside because my heart and body is screaming for me to have sex with the man I love, but my mind refuses to co-operate, I just don not want to and cannotget pregnant right now.I have come very close to sex with him but I always end up screeching to a halt at the last minute because of this incredible fear. I don't trust contraception because I have a family history of unplanned pregnancies - even with the use of contraceptive pills, and even when the pill was combined with condoms and spermicidal lubricant! I also read somewhere that with people my age, the pill must be taken at least 3 months in advance for it to be effective and reliable.I am so afraid that having sex just one time could end with me up the spout. I don't want to have to deal with the emotional crisis of termination or adoption either. I am so lucky that my boyfriend has never, ever pressured me into sex. I have explained to him that a pregnancy now would screw up both our lives and he respects that. He completely understands and has been incredibly patient with me. He says he will be ready whenever I am ready, and I want to be ready so badly, but I don't know how to prevent pregnancy other than complete abstinence.What can I do so that I can finally have sex with my boyfriend without having to worry about pregnancy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): If you go ahead with sex with this on your mind you won't relax enough to enjoy it...sex with worries = bad experience
Either make sure that you are not fertile (i.e. implant or pill - if you can remember to take it!) or don't take the risk
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): Thats good hun good luck love mandy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your responses I am now looking at that progesterone implant since it appears to be one of the best options I have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): Hi Hunny
have you tryed the contraception injection that works for 3months hunny and also condoms at the same time, im going to look for a link hunny
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/contraception_which.htm
You are thinking safe and thats good but hunny you can get the safest methods and use it all wisely and try and relax hunny if you need anymore help as I feel your fear is taking over hunny message me TAKE CARE WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Lucy2118  +, writes (27 February 2008):
 Although the pill and condoms are the most common form of contraception, it mean their the only ones. I suggest you go any see your doctor for information on other forms, experiment with some and find one your completely comfortable with. Take your boyfriend with you and make he also comfortable with it also. Choosing together should make your mind rest.
Hope this helps.
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