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writes:ive been with my boyfriend for 2 months now.. and i am a really horny girl lol when ime on my own i masterbate alot and well lets just say i really like it BUT when im with my boyfriend i am really body consious i get paranoid that i wont do something right .. and i hardly ever see him when i really want to he says hes in love with me and seems genuin i hvent done a thing with him yet apart from kiss but i really want to. but i dont know if he wants me to.. because he seems self concious aswell. i cant talk to him abowt it that is well embarasing lol! hope you can help me get over this lol xx
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reader, sxcarshalz  +, writes (5 January 2008):
i was exactly like you try doing stuff with him at night in the dark just like i did it helps self confidence grows slowly. sometimes guys wont make the first move if your ready for it then make the first move.
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reader, chica_23  +, writes (5 January 2008):
well...there is really only one thing you can do...Get some self-confidence! as soon as things get started they will go naturally, just be confident and let a kiss turn into a little more dont hold back.
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reader, El Dente +, writes (4 January 2008):
 If you are both self conscious about your bodies then approahing him to speak about taking it further should be easier than If it was just one of you who was insecure. I'm nearly 16 and in a very similar situation but instead of thinking about talking about it and planning what you're going to say just blurt something out to start the conversation, then let the conversation flow from there. I always find that by jumping in headfirst into a conversation that I feel scared about is the best way to approach it as once it starts its easy to flow from there and it doesnt seem so scary. Good points from Leanna about the self consciousness, your boyfriend feels the same as you do and remember that.
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Good Luck,
J
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): If you haven't gotten to the point in your relationship where you are comfortable talking to each other about absolutely anything then there no way you should be doing anything more than kissing anyway.
If you want to go further but are a bit self concious then he should be the first person you go to for reassurance. If it's impossible for you to even have conversation about that stuff then how do you think you gonna handle a conversation about contraception or what you want sexually?
A good sexual and overall relationship involves lots of communication and I would advise you to talk to your boyfriend in-depth about your insecurities before you decide to take the next step. He'll reassure you and make you feel better and it will make whatever you decide to do sexually much better because that emotional connection will be there, you'll both know how the other is feeling and what the other wants.
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reader, maggie1987 +, writes (4 January 2008):
 well maybe he feels the same. if he hasnt inniciated sex then u have a really good boy there because most boys only want sex so give it a little more time or just ask if he wants to take the relationship a bit further and see what happens u may just be in luck there lol good luck
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