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*unshine.x
writes:My boyfriend or now my ex had been together for a year.We got on like a house on fire when we were together and i think we loved each other dearly..well i know i loved him. We were in a ldr and saw each other every other weekend i had plans to move closer to him in 8 months time to get ready university so forth.However 5 days ago he asked for a break,he said there was too much pressure on the relationship he also said he's sick of missing me all the time.3 days ago he dumped me.I am absolutely devastated to say the least i did the stupid thing of cying and begging and denying :( but then i called to apologise for my behaviour its so difficult not to call or text him. Do you have any advice for me ?it hurts pretty badly and i seriously think we could of had a brilliant future together ,our personalities never clashed.Should i give up all hope on him?He's acting tough saying how we both need to move on but however he does say he loves me and wont forget about me and he wants to be friends.But how could he stop caring?How could he do this in a way but i understand his reason but itwasn't that long to wait...?Was i not worth it?I suspect he's gallavanting with his mates forgetting about me.what shall i do guys?I really love this man.Please try and give me some tips,im really trying to stay strong.lots of love .x
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reader, heartbreaker54  +, writes (2 October 2009):
He's probably pulling the 'friend' card because he feels really guilty for hurting your feelings. As tough as it may sound, if he loves you as much as you love him.. he would be calling you right now trying to work things out with you. Ive been in the exact situation you are ( a month ago) and the longer you hold on the harder it hurts. you have to try to find someway to let go. You should delete him off your myspace/facebook and get rid of anything that reminds you of him. If a man tells you to move on, do it. Your only going to be fooling yourself if you stick around.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 October 2009):
Hi there.
First of all, of course you're worth it. You're a great girl and there's nothing wrong with you. He just wasn't the guy for you. I know that's hard to accept, but it's a fact. He wanted to split.
Secondly it would be better to stop all contact. He wants to remain friends because he feels guilty and doesn't want to hurt you. By remaining friends, it will only hurt more. Say goodbye to him, delete his number and email and don't take calls.
It will take time to get over him, I know because I've been dumped before and it took me time. So you've go to to be strong, get out there with your friends and have fun, find a hobby or something to keep you busy. You will start to get over it when you're ready. And when you've over it, you will find a great guy who'll adore you! Don't expect it to be quick, but the importnat thing is to end the relationship completely, so you know it's over (which is definitely is), and start rebuilding yourself.
All the best. x
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