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female
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writes:I just turned 16 this year and I’m troubled over my feelings. Since Sec1, I was attracted to K and we always hang out and he would write me some silly notes that made me laugh. He would walk me back home and carry my bag for me under the hot sun. At then, my best friend was attracted to him too, or should I say many girls were attracted to him? He had a great sense of humor and he was quite popular among the girls because of his CCA. And he is always so nice to everyone, getting along well with the girls. One day he asked if I would accept a guy like him? I wanted to say yes, but I was too shy and I thought he was joking with him. So, I told him that I would not accept him because I would be in jealousy everyday seeing him acting and getting close with girls in his drama club.Everyone thought that we were compatible and even the teachers would make fun of us. However, just as I thought I was the luckiest girl in the world, streaming in sec3 separated us. I was in the best class while he was in the 3rd class. We continued to talk as usual, but not that often. However, an appearance of a boy name J changed everything. There was once when he wanted to walk me out of school after a school event. And K saw us. I text him and explain about the situation. He didn’t reply. Since then, he rarely talks to me. There was once when I told him that people said we broke up. Then he replied that it was obvious. Then I was confused, did we even go steady? Was that casual question a confession? Out of anger, I stead with J and thought that I could forget K. But I guess I choose the wrong path. K was upset and did not talk to him ever since. Then, I broke up with J after a month because I kept thinking about K.I will always think about K before I sleep everyday and this was how I lived throughout these months. I always blamed myself for going steady with J just to spike K. This is the greatest regret I have in my life. K was my first love and I can never seems to forget him. There are times that I wanted to confront K and tell him about what I really feel and I want to know how he feels for me. But on the other hand, I would tell myself to wait for JC life to come, where better men are available. What should I do?
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (20 February 2010):
 yea just say to k you thought he was teasing you and didn't even know he considered you two officially dating because you never went on a date, then ask him on a date so you can get to know each other even better.
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reader, Lealea1345  +, writes (20 February 2010):
Hey....
Well, this Is abit of a sticky situation, and the feelings will stay with you.
You generally had feelings for k and unknowingly to you k recipicated those feelings. You need to talk to k, and tell him how you feel and that it wasn't clear to you that you were together. If he will not keep it touch or return your message then it's clear that he's very Hurt by this, however maybe in time he will want to clear it up. If you do not tell l how you feel then you will regret it and always wonder how things could have been different if only you had tried. This is the worst feeling. I know it's happened to me, just remember don't harass him say what
you need to and leave it up to him. If he doesn't reply at
least you know that you've tried.
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