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female
age
30-35,
*weetSmoochy
writes:Help me!!! I really like two different guys. the first one is my boyfriend of four months and the second one is becoming a closer and closer friend. I like them both so much, and they both have good qualities. My Boyfriend has taken the time to get really close to me and has become a friend as well as a boyfriend. I deeply care for him and I really love spending time with him, talking to him, having him to go to if I'm upset, and seeing him at school every day. However, he forgets to call, and breaks plans, often for his friends. His buddies will show up when I'm with him sometimes. (I give him plenty of space, he sees them without interruption from me several times a week, yet I see him only once or twice a week.) He also speaks without thinking, and some of the things he accidentally says are harder to shake than others. I know he honestly doesn't mean them the way they come out, but sometimes it's hard. My guy friend is sweet, and funny, I love to talk to him and be around him, and he's also got an ornery streak, which gives him more character. He is also more school oriented, like I am. However, I don't know him as well, and he may have the same problems as my boyfriend and I just don't know. This is causing me so much pain and stress!! Please help!! What do I do!! Reply to this Question
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (22 January 2011):
SweetSmoochy is verified as being by the original poster of the question I don't think wanting to see my boyfriend more than once every couple of weeks is "wanting more than I can have". He breaks plans with me to hang out with his friends, whom he says he hangs out with daily. Breaking plans is a problem, not spending time with me is a problem, his hanging out with his friends is not a problem.
Seeing as my guy friend has asked me out, yes, I do actually know that he likes me.
What's causing me pain is not knowing what to do at this point. Please actually read what I wrote before you leave an accusatory answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): You have no clue if this other guy even likes you. And if you are with your boyfriend and looking at other people, you shouldn't be with your boyfriend either. They're young guys, of course they're going to want to see their friends, that isn't a 'problem'. I very much doubt it's causing you 'pain', it's simply a case of wanting more than is fair to have.
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