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writes:Okay, here goes:I like this guy. Really really like him. His name is Tal. The other night there was a party, and well, him and me fooled around. Alot. As in, underneath bra and panties. After the party we went over to a friends house, but i had to leave at around 2 a.m.Today, i asked him who he likes, cuz I needed to know if I even had the slightest chance, before getting my hopes up. It turns out that he liked Margo, but when she made-out with Tomer, Tal came to me. Now, I didnt know that he had liked Margo, I thought that he liked me, so I let him do everything he wanted to, without alot of resistance. (I did protest, but in the end, he had always convinced me). So, then today, Alizee told me that after I left, Tal and her had this "thing". I'm not quite sure what that's supposed to mean, but he assured me that it meant nothing. So now I'm a) confused, b) convinced that he's a man-slut, and c) I unfortunately still like him, and d) kinda feel disgusted with the both of us. Tomorrow I see him again. What am I supposed to do???And, there's also tons and tons of rumours circulating about us. I don't really mind that bit, but apparently he does, cuz I guess he doesn't want anyone to know that we did alot more than just talk in that room.Please help me.-Sofieps, I wasn't drunk
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): "If you are looking for a boyfriend, this is not the guy for you. He is looking to fool around. He is too young to expect more from him."
Too young? No way. Most boys don't play girls. Most players won't grow out of it.
If you keep getting played then you need to take responsibility for your own habit of choosing players.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): If you are looking for a boyfriend, this is not the guy for you. He is looking to fool around. He is too young to expect more from him.
I'm sorry that you really like him, but for a relationship, you should expect some RESPECT. He isn't looking at girls with RESPECT right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): Dear Trancedrhythmear, actually, Tal is really nice to me. WE always joke about that stuff, and it really just started with a harmless game of “are you nervous”. Okay, maybe not that harmless, but, you know. Know that I think about it, I’m not really sure what it is exactly that attracts me about him, but I’m pretty sure that its not just the physical stuff. He makes me laugh, and I just smile involuntarily when he’s around. You know that feeling? But, well, when he started to brap about what we did, and I got all of these weird stares… I don’t know. He said we needed to talk toady, but we didn’t.
Thanks for all the advise guys. ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): I think you feel this man is indeed only after that...the bra and panties. You cant simply like a guy cause of that can you? Tell us a bit about his personality. I feel you do not genuinely like him because you only seem to connect with him physically. Anyway, yeah Id be confused too. Play it safe and stay away from the guy. Simply cause there's a risk of something potentially bad here be it rumors, relationships with ppl, and also him as youre unsure who he is...dont be curious and go chase and go thru the phase we all went thru. Be different. Stay away from him and stay away from parties to avoid these situations. No need to ever put yourself in a potential harms way with these things or other typical teenager behavior anecdotes. Good luck.
Ps im glad u were not drunk :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): You are at a YOUNG age. Read this site for others who have been in your shoes. I was young once myself. I have found through experience...the HARD way ..NOT to get involved with boys/men who only want sexual gratification. They will say ANYTHING you want to hear until they get what they want. Save yourself for someone special. Men value women they cannot "have" ..they want what they can't have. They lose interest in women who give them sex..and move on to the next conquest.These love games turn into sad stories of these boys fathering kids with different women..two and three at a time. Find other young women online to compare "notes" with about these relationships. Thirty years later..I look up old boyfriends on Facebook and am angry at how they took advantage of a young, orphaned child..even though I was 17..Stop now..so you can "go " forward in life. Finish school...not get pregnant and trapped with one of these young men who only want you for sex.Wait and look for someone real..it takes time. Good luck..you deserve the best..not these crumbs this guy is throwing at you..
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reader, bethy2010  +, writes (1 November 2010):
It is very unclear what you want advice on. Is it that you are afraid to see him after you feel all that about him? now that you know that he's honestly not looking for a serious relationship?
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