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writes:I know this is very long but i feel like people should know the whole situation. I work in a fast food place as one of the supervisors. I had a crush on one of the workers and we went on a date and kissed but it never interfered with work (dating isnt allowed) and he ended up getting fired not because i dated him but all other made up reasons which i still to this day feel like it was because he liked me a lot and i liked him. Anyways...after that my boss has always kept me on thin ice, becasue rumors starting spreading around from one of the other supervisors. About a month or two ago we hired a bunch of new people, one of which i knew was older and married and had kids and that was all i knew. I ended up working with him one night and we really got a long, i really liked him. He was just getting out of a divorce and had two kids and from what ive found out he's pulling his life together and working there is the way hes doing it and going to school. Im leaving in a month for school, im 19. Hes 24. Everyone says thats too big of an age difference including my family...hes mentioned that he wished he had dating lots when he was younger and just wants to date but then says that he loves being in a reltaionship. We flirt all the time at work. Again it doesnt interfer with work...I really like him, i think he likes me to. Ive offered that he can come see me at school and stay with me if he wants and he seems all for it. We cliq really well...but i feel like everyone is against it...i really like him im not sure what to do. Should i try and go for it? Should i just be friends and where it goes? If it goes anywhere? Im not sure at this point...i know hes trying to pull his life together and i feel like we get a long so well and just have a connection. Should i approach him about it? Or just be friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): hey your age difference us five years, thats nothing to determine weather your relationship with this person should move forwarrd. women matureat a much faster rate than boys. So usually women do date older than them. Is it against work policy to date a co-worker? If it is than you should be careful with that. If you move forward with dating this guy then theres the risk of being fired and recieving an unfavorable review from your current boss and if you dont get fired it can look really bad that you are breaking the rules and may make some people look at you as not being loyal.....including the man u are interested in. My advice would be if you both agree the relationship has potential to be more permanant than casual dating you sshould consider changing jobs that way you keep your integrity in place and dont end up wih a fire on your work record. check out your policy, some employers allow dating as long as the parties work in diffrent sections, then one of you could ask for a transfer. Dont let what others think about your age difference affect your decisions. If this mkes YOU happy then that is what matters. i was married with 3 kids for years and ended up geting a divorce. I never really knew what love was until I met my current husband. I thought I did but I had no idea. Our age difference has been scrutinized as well. As he is 24 years older than me. Good luck.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 April 2010):
 Take each day at a time and just enjoy the friendship. Follow your destiny and where it brings you .
16 and 24 is not too wide a gap and age is not a criteria but maturity levels.
Do not be affected by what others think. Majority opinion does not mean they are always right.
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