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writes:I really, really like someone in my class. He's so lovely to everyone and he seems really perfect to me. Me and him are both extremely musical. He comes from a musical family, (I'm friends with his twin sister who is also extremely musical), and I know he plays guitar, bass and piano. I play violin, some piano and just learning guitar. We have the same tastes in music. I have spent entire lessons sitting and talking to him about Oasis, or Bon Jovi or some other band that we really only talk to each other about. Out of all my friends, his twin sister is the only other person I actually talk to about music. If we are together, it's what we talk about, and we both seem to enjoy just being with each other. I have a suspicion that he likes me too, and even my friends say we are really well suited. I know from his sister that he doesn't want a girlfriend, and I feel the same way, but I really want to be friends with him. I don't even think I would mind if I got friend zoned because I like him as a friend, and just enjoy his company. Today, we were out in a group iceskating, and me and him were equally crap. We went to the cafe for a while, and he showed me personally the John Lennon tshirt he was wearing and showed me the guitar that he wants to buy. He explained to us that he was doing guitar lessons to pay for it and he asked me if I wanted them. My question is, would it be a good idea to take them? I really, really want to take them, because I love music and it would make it even better if he was teaching me. I'm just worried that instead of either going out, or just being friends, he likes me as well and we will just end up as two people that like each other, show it, but are too nervous about saying anything. I don't know if he knows how I feel. My friends say it's obvious when they see us together, but maybe that's because I told them first. I don't plan on telling him unless he feels the same because if I don't, then it won't be awkward if I try to be friends with him. Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 February 2013):
 do take the lessons without too many mind trips, if something romantic blossoms in time, fine. Otherwise, sinec you say that you would not mind even just being friends, what better way to get closer to a person than sharing a passion and spending time doing something you both love.
Worst case scenario, if nothing really pans out, hey at least you'll have learned to play guitar , just as you wanted to do :) .
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not bothered by the fact that he is charging me for them simply because I know that before asking me, he put up a notice in his local take away asking people if they want lessons. I know that he knows I have been looking for a teacher and I know how seriously he takes his music. It's a reasonable price as well for the lessons, and I know that no everything comes free.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2013): Yes, take the guitar lessons! :) He sounds like a wonderful young man. I do not think you will be ruining your chances by taking lessons from him.
Good luck!
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reader, redbean  +, writes (24 February 2013):
I feel it is weird he wants you to pay him for the guitar lessons he is giving you. A real gentlemen would offer the guitar lessons for free even if he needs the money to buy guitar. How much is he charging? I am leaning on the NO side simply because he is asking for money.
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