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writes: I am moving really close with a good friend of mine. We have kissed a couple times but nothing more cause we are not together. This has been going on for about 4 months now and I really like him. I can't imagine being with anyone besides him. He once said that we are practically together except we are not actually saying it. However I can't help but feel sometimes that I am just filling in until someone better comes along. Once we were walking and he left me to go talk to another girl and called me after with a kind of lame excuse. The thing is I believed him. I also think that he likes my best friend but because he know she would not be with him he is just settling for me. He always compliments her alot even when I am around. Once we went to his basketball game and he told her that she caused him not to concentrate when he saw her. That really hurt my feelings because I ws there. Sometimes though he is really nice to me. I don't know what to do because there are other boys that really like me and I won't give them a chance becaus I really like that guy and i would do anything for him.Please help me I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): Firstly, this friendship has not progressed to an 'actual dating relationship', hun and you need to get your emotions in check here. You consider him 'the love of your life' and he considers you 'a good friend'. Just realize that some of the most wonderful love relationships are initially based on the foundation of a lasting, good friendship. It is plainly obvious he does have a crush on this other girl. He could like her because she's great looking or she has a nice personality. Who knows? Only he does. But...please, don't get all resentful, pouty, angry and feeling like second best. This will show through and he will notice it. These are your very own thoughts and feelings...you own them and this is the time, you don't want your inner self-doubts showing. The best thing you can do right now is to handle this situation with a positive attitude, maturity and class. In the long run, having a loving relationship with a guy you like, has little to do with way you look, physically. He already is friends with you and it sounds like you two spend a lot of time together doing 'buddy' things. So now...show him your other qualities...the warmth and energy you project in your life. Take an interest in others and be gracious and giving. This is what he'll take note about you, if you stay happy, fun and keep a positive outlook. Being truly beautiful is about health, radiance, and the spark of life, how you enhance other people's lives. Start by smiling and highlighting your good qualities. But give this time and he might just start 'viewing' you in a different way. If he doesn't, I can guaruntee you, some other young man will notice you. It sounds like some are interested already. If this guy just doesn't get it...then move on and find someone who will make you his special number one girl. But keep your pride, your self respect intact and remember-- you truely are a special gift to this world. Never, ever forget that
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