A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:i'm totally, utterly, and hopelessly in love with a guy i have never said 2 words to. everyone told me "it's just lust, you'll get over it"... i've "liked" him for 5 years! and actually know who he was for 1 of those.... i've just been too shy to ever say anything to him. We have alot in common (we have mutal friends, so i hear alot about him), and there are times when i've been within 10 feet of him and just stood there. I'd love to be able to just move on, or something, but i can't. He lives alittle way away from me, but is home for the summer... last time i seen him was last summer, we were both with out friends (both standing in the background) and i was looking and him, and him at me, and he was smiling, looking down, and scuffing his feet, then looking back up. I should have said something, i wish i would have, but i didn't, and i regret it. It keeps getting worse, not knowing if maybe we could hit it off. Now i don't know when i'm going to see him again, but when i do i want to be ready. I am not confident in the least, but i'm getting better at pretending i am... i just say whatever pops into my head, and it ususally does the trick. But with him i can't... i get all tongue tied, and i need help! by the sounds of it could he like me? cause i really like him... how could i get him to notice me? how can i get him to talk to me? anything advice you can give would help bunches.... p.s - i've never had a boyfriend, and i am in my mid to late teens, so this is all new to me, and i feel totally lost and hopeless.
View related questions:
move on, never had a boyfriend, notice me, shy Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, nologo  +, writes (23 May 2007):
 Definitely this is not a crush in your case.
Crushes cannot last so long - several years.
There are two different explanations of your situation:
"never had a boyfriend, and i am in my mid to late teens, so this is all new to me, and i feel totally lost and hopeless"
First, there are so-called Dating Rules, and if you don't understand them, then you cannot date.
Second, if you don't see appropriate guys around you for somewhat reason, then you cannot date.
"i've just been too shy to ever say anything to him"
It's YOUR explanation - there is something else still.
A
male
reader, DV1  +, writes (23 May 2007):
 What you have is called puppy love. You're attracted to his looks. Most guys are attracted to shy girls. Just go up and introduce yourself. Tell him that you had seen him a couple times in mutual situations with friends, but you never got to strike up a conversation with him. The worst he can do is say that he's not interested. If he's home for the summer, take a chance. Just don't let it be a short fling, because that's the worst way to deal with a first crush...
DV1
...............................
|
