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anonymous
writes:I'm a 12 yr old male. I have a VERY good infact shes my BEST friend and shes almost 11 I really like her and im not sure but i think she likes me.She comes over to my house to play games watch movies ETC.She calls me almost every other day and she shares personal stuff she wouldn't tell most people.And she acts really...different around me...I kinda want to tell her but i don't want a good friendship to be ruined i figured its a good idea to ask for advice before I screw up big time please help.
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reader, c-wahoo +, writes (24 July 2008):
It does sound that you are confused. You want to tell her that you like her, is that right? You do already share a mutual friendship because you hang out. Being you are both still young I don't think dating should be something to happen right now. I would imagine she won't be able to have a "boyfriend" for quite a few more years. You could always just open up a conversation about dating and what it will be like to go on a date by yourself without parents around. Listen to what she says and that will give you some idea of what she thinks of dating. You could also ask what she would look for in a guy she would want to date. Mention to her that you really enjoy her company and friendship.
There is still So Much to learn and understand while you are at this age. There is nothing wrong with just leaving it as it is for now. As you get older you learn so much about yourself and what you like and dislike. Don't rush it for now!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 July 2008):
 Hi, thanks for the followup. I guess I'm a little confused too, as O Connor is.
You won't ruin a good friendship if you let her know that you think she is a great person and that you enjoy her company, and that you want to be a good friend.
If you get all funny and behave strangely, then she might not understand that you do consider her a good friend, so just try to treat her with good manners and as you would want to be treated yourself.
Hope this helps.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (22 July 2008):
 hey there hun. well it sounds like you 2 are really good mates. im just a little confused - you said in the original post that you want her to kow how you feel but then in the update you dont wanna be her boyfriend - do you just want her to know how you feel and take things slow or wait til your older?
you can, like trisha said, make little suggestions or questions relating to how she may feel about liking guys in general etc. if you do want to tell her, then be honest with her about wat you want, how you feel, but most of all let her know that you respect how she feels no matter wat and you will always be her friend and dont wanna lose that. email me and we can talk more, im still a little confused as to wat you want to happen with this girl xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTy Tisha! Very much! Now i believe my writing will be a little beter and i can focus on other things. One more thing i dont really want to be her boyfriend or...crap...im confused again.. ehh this one my problem lol!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 July 2008):
It sounds like you two have a very good friendship and spend a lot of time together. I understand why you're worried about letting her know that you like her. She's still kind of young to have a boyfriend.
When you two are playing video games or watching a movie, why not ask her a question like, when do you think your parents will let you have a boyfriend? Or, what do you think a great guy for you would be like?
Keep in mind she may not reciprocate your feelings, so be sure to casual and flexible about this.
Good friends should be valued and treasured as great gifts; so just take it VEEEERRRRRYYYYY slow and just keep talking to her and treat her like she is a good friend.
Good luck! And you sound like a very nice guy too, so I hope she's as nice as you are.
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