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writes:I met a girl online and we really hit it off. We've been video calling and chatting over skype and text for about two months now and I really like this girl. I'm pretty sure she likes me back, but I'm scared of starting a long distance relationship because I don't think we'd have any way of meeting in person, and most people I ask or sites I check list in-person meetings as a pretty important thing. Now the reason we'd have difficulty is that both of us are only 17 and living under our parents' roofs. I don't have a job and hers is selling art over the internet (not that I'd ask her to pay anyway). The distance is also pretty substantial-she lives in California and I live in Texas. I also wouldn't be able to go to my parents simply because they absolutely hate the idea of me dating period. To the point where they interfered with my only two past relationships. They simply don't want me dating while I'm in school and definitely wouldn't be okay with me dating someone long distance. It hurts because I really like this girl and would like to make things work, but don't know how I'd be able to meet up with her.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 August 2014):
 Texas to California is not that bad... unless you are 17 in school living at home and have no income.
LDRs for adults with time and money are hard.
LDRs where you have met the person before you are LDR are hard
Having never met her in person, I strongly urge you to consider the possibility that what works on skype and email will not work in real life.
I would not cut yourself off of other local folks at this point.. once you turn 18 and move out or go to college you will have much more control over your life than you currently do.
I know you want to meet this girl but circumstances are such that it may not happen for a few years and putting your life on hold while you have a "pretend" relationship (because until you have met IRL then it's all fantasy) is not a wise idea.
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