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writes: Hi I am 26 year old guy, I am madly in love with a girl, but we just broke up recently, for now I am trying to be in a normal mental frame treating everything as normal as if nothing happened, I do that when I meet her too, I am responsible for this break up, She caught me chatting up with my ex and decided to break up, I was doing this behind her back, but I did not have any bad intentions, I have been unfair with my ex and that very day just wanted to find out how she is doing, there were many occasions when I got caught chatting up with few other girls who do not mean anything to me, nothing!! The calls don’t come in out of my interest, I am not a great looking guy, The girl that I love is open to things in terms of me calling my ex and also talking to girls, but I feel it is a very wrong thing to do when you are committed, I have got things so far that, she’s been hurt so many zillion times, this girl is one girl I loved from all the ones I met, my relationship is so damaged that it can not move any further, I am madly in love with her, I think of her all the time, every thing that is around me in my daily life is filled with memories of the times we spent together, she is a very strong person who can move on, but I guess I am not, that’s probably the reason why I keep thinking of all the occasions when I was wrong, sometimes I feel like ending my life, but that’s become a joke now, because I tried that once before but unfortunately survived, I have my Mom, Dad and sister who depend on me, life seems to be moving very slow, There is a lot of unrest in me, all the times we were in a relationship there were few things that I thought were wrong for her to do, like answering her ex, I got her in to the relationship, she was never in love with me initially but there was I time I felt the warmth of her beautiful affection and love, I become a kid in her arms, sometimes she acts like she was my mom, sometimes a soul mate, she has given me a shoulder every minute in our relationship, I need a doctor to explain my behavior, I don’t have a control of my actions most of the time, for all the times after I got assurance of her commitment, I had just her in my mind, but I still be caught answering some anonymous girls call, This is been a rec
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2006): Lostandalone, most often than not reading between the lines of harsh words would better open the minds of those hurting. Eg: when I was hurting, many people came to me and told me stuff you just said. It didn't help. When the few came to me and bluntly told me what was blatantly in my face all that time, it cleared a path to my heart and opened my mind up. If I were in this guy's shoes and people continued to tell me stuff like that, and if I was a weak person in the first place, then sure, let me die alone and bury me with the tombstone that reads "Killed Myself Over Lost Love". However, fortunately, a little bluntness goes a long way.
Ridicule? Ha! Hardly.
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (14 June 2006):
 Martini that is harsh and Ariel I am suprised at you!!!!
This man obviously needs help not ridicule.
Find a counselor in your home town and vent. I agree with Pete on this issue. That reason for leaving is ridiculous and if that is true she wanted to leave anyway. If you left the toilet seat up one more time she would have left. For GOD's sake MAN defend yourself. Her reasoning is obviously flaud. Be strong and seek more counseling than just us. We are good but not to that extreme. This is totally beyond my realm of thinking. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2006): ooh ariel, so harsh!
Anonymous, maybe you are really messed up over this because your girlfriend split up with you for such a rediculous reason? You should be defending yourself to her... unless you are actually guilty of something? If you arn't - it's an admission of guilt by accepting her reason and your girlfriend will have little problem getting over you unless you come out with this defense!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2006): Your ex wanted to break up with you because you talked to your ex and other women?
You're fucking kidding me right? Oops, did I just swear? Must come with the sarcasm. How is that possibly wrong to talk to your ex's? Seems to me your recent ex has some mental instabilities, as with you - having suicidal tendencies. You're no better than those people who have absolutely no will power in the result of their actions. Just like those teenagers in HK who jump off buildings because they got 98% on their exams instead of 100%. My gosh! IF this gets you down, then wow, a pin-prick of a setback in everything else must cause you to shit your pants and call it quits.
Yes, I am being harsh and blunt and possibly get smacked around by the other aunts and uncles, but you gotta smack yourself out of this rather minor setback.
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