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writes:Ok. In a previous question I asked about why my girl was acting distant. Thats settled, she just wanted a little her time. She loves me, misses me no problem. Now it's a long story, but basically she went on a little work trip with her friend. The job her friend has involves driving all throughout the country. They got stuck somewhere and the trip was cancelled. But, they couldn't leave right away for various reasons. Now, they were travelling with other people on this job. One of the other co-workers brought his son along. That guys son and my girl ended up alone together watching tv and hanging out in a "motel room"!!!!! She called me and told me what was going on and basically just hashed over the fact that she was with him. I trust my girl with all my heart. And I KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that she wouldn't cheat on me, or at least if she thought she might then she would tell me about it. Nevertheless, it still bothered the crap outa me. Didn't tell her, just thought it. Do I tell her it bothers me, or do I just let it slide?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2006): Don't keep this to yourself and do tell her, dear. You just need to hear some reassurances and that's okay...we all need that in love relationships. The sad thing about keeping your thoughts and feelings to yourself, is that you are left alone with your fears and it can get to you, after awhile. And obviously, doing this will be counterproductive to the quality of your relationship, eventually. So yes..just talk to her calmly about it. No need to act worried or tense about it. But-remember in the future...that one of the most crucial aspects of a good relationship is the confidence you have in your partners intent never to hurt you. When you are having doubts..it helps for you to always remember that through your relationship history with her, she has indeed, gained your credibility and trust. Good luck, hun..it sounds like you and she have a wonderfully, trusting relationship
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reader, Toria +, writes (1 October 2006):
 Some of us have to tell the other person it bothers us due to leaving it fester makes it worse and the thoughts seem to take over our minds but some of us can just let it slide knowing that they feel sure they wouldn't cheat etc.
It's entirely how you feel and what you want to do.
Personally if it was me I would have to say something even if it was just to hear them say I was being silly and nothing is going on.
Good luck :o)
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