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writes:Im in a LDR...have been now for 2 and a half years and I love him, I dont know what I would do without this guy, he means so much to me and I want to spend the rest of my life with him.Issue with me is...everyday I tell him how much I love him and either everyday or every second day I tell him why I tell him how he makes me feel and how I adore how he looks and go into things about his eyes and his smile, I talk about things to do with his personality and many things like that. And him...he doesnt.Dont get me wrong, I know he loves me and I know for a fact he doesnt even really look at other girls ever and when Im with him in real it is amazing and he doesnt need to say anything because he just comes and kisses me on the head and gives me cuddles and when he walks by me grabs my ass and holds my hand and stuff...but online nothing. And I dunno it feels like I put so much effort into making him know I want and love him but he gives me nothing in return...I guess I just want someone to give me a good way how to deal with this or some advice because honestly its playing in my head way much than it should be.Please and Thank You. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): The best to deal with this is by moving closer to him. LDR's are a pain in the ass, they're exceptionally difficult to maintain especially seeing as your boyfriend is the type of guy that likes to show his love physically.
You like to say the words but he likes to show his love with touch and affection.
The only way to solve that is to move closer to each other. It's been two years OP and your still together thats very long for an LDR which means he must truly love you too but the only way you're going to be emotionally satisfied is by being with him, that's how he shows you his love and you can't do that with such a distance between you. So unless you want to keep this up, in this way then you have to find a way of being with each other more often.
Firstly though tlak to him, tell him you feel this way and he'll probably say it more. But honestly words just don't compare to feeling his loving embrace and kiss. I think that's what you miss the most. I think even if he told you he loved every minute of every day, you still would yearn to feel that love.
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reader, TRL88  +, writes (24 March 2011):
Well Im a woman and im better at showing my feelings rather than speak them. i mean no harm by it. but thats just not made up for me personally. It doesnt mean that he feels any different from how you feel about him. But we as people have to understand that each and everyone of us are different and it includes expression. Communicate with him about how you feel, because he's not a mind reader. But from the sound of things he's a great guy. most woman hear how a man feels but barely they show it. Im sure theres alot of women who wish a man can show then rather then say it. good luck!
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