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writes: I was in a long distance relationship for 6 months,i admit i went much to fast i really fell for her,we are both middle aged and early on Ann told me she issues with feelings and expressing herself,her mother gave her away when she was 12 and her husband died,one night i pushed her on her feelings and she didnt want to go there but i kept on and she dumped me,since i've spoken to her best friend who told me she really likes me but finds it hard to get close and love somebody due to her past,anyone got any suggestions what i can do
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (4 January 2008):
Some women are like that and the earlier you understand that the better.She needs her space but tell her how sorry you are for pushing her beyond.I guess you could use the services of Ann again.Just plead your case and i'm sure she'll give in but if she doesn't budge,there's nothing more you could do.
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reader, MeowMix86  +, writes (4 January 2008):
 I'm so sorry. You must have felt so confused! The best thing to do in a situation like this is to be honest with yourself and her. If you want to be with her, then you must respect her boundaries, and have faith that she will tell you about her feelings when she is ready.If you allow her to open up to you on her own terms, she will feel a great sense of closeness that only comes when you feel you can truly confide in someone without pressure. It's difficult for someone who has been hurt in the past to build trust once more. Do not take it personally, you seem to be a wonderful and caring man.You know that she still has feelings for you, and thats great. The next thing to do is to see her and talk to her face to face. Explain to her why you pushed her about her feelings. That you didn't fully understand her and wanted to. Be completely honest and you will earn her trust once more. Explain that you are willing to be patient for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008): Why not contact Ann and tell her that you are sorry you pushed her, that you really enjoyed her company and that you would like to try again, but take things more slowly this time. If she has issues she will overcome them by gradually building up trust with you and that will take time. Good luck, I hope it works out x
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