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male
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36-40,
*mootnezz
writes:i've been friends with this lady for over a year. we are in the same college. in this one year that we've been friends, she has always come to me to help her with school work. it got to the point where i felt she was always trying to make excuses just to be with me because some of the school assignments that she brought to ask for my help were really very easy to do and i always soon found out that she had understood them after all.anyway, i didn't rush. we stayed friends and became very close and people felt we looked good together. i just didn't want to do anything that would jeopardize the friendship i had with her so i held on even though i began to have feelings for her. suddenly she withdrew a little from me. but i just let it go for a while and she soon began to contact me again.now after one year, i am really sure of how i feel about her and had been planning to tell her. then she did something that made me love her the more. she came to visit me after close to 6 months of having not visited me. and she took the time to shop for provisions for me. i had planned to tell her about how i felt about her that day. but i decided to wait for another time because i was afraid she might take it the wrong way, seeing that she had shopped for me.now after that day, i waited for a good time to tell her and could not get any because unlike me, she works and schools at the same time. i was really beginning to suffer emotionally and i also thought that further delay on my part will make her look elsewhere. in Ghana, it is our culture for the woman to wait for the man to make the first move.to cut things short, i sent her a text message and told her about how i feel.i waited to hear a reply from her but got none. so i text her again to find out why and she promised we would talk about it. not wanting to look like am rushing things, i have been waiting patiently for her to get back to me. but it seems she is really beginning to avoid talking about it because each time i call her she refuses to talk along that line. what could she be thinking? did i make the wrong moves? what should i do next? i need help. please advice me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2011): I am a girl, I show I am interested on a guy then it’s his turn to come after me if he has any interest; She didn’t show up for 6 months and you just relaxed waited for her to come to you with a new question? when you act like that she may thinks you are not serious enough. you have been very slow motion. Hun It took you one year! One year to tell her you have a feeling for her and you did this by texting her!? Basically you waited one year to do a wrong move! Why you didn’t tell her in person while you invited her somewhere nice? Don’t wait for her to come to you again I think you need to move faster and be more serious if you like her, otherwise you will lose her. Invite her somewhere and talked to her you still have time, but do it fast.
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